Always have a plan B and C when investing this amount of money and time. That way if plan A flakes, you have 2 others who would gladly take her spot. Originally Posted by AlexisMooreSome ladies do feel a little slighted when asked to be the second or third pinch hitter so to speak. So this is not always an option as this can burn bridges too. Usually if my date falls through on an overnight.......unless I've prescreened with others to my satisfaction Id consider it a total loss and just not book with anyone and check out.