I have offered to assist her financially but I believe that although we have connected as friends, she is not attracted to me physically. Any suggestion on what I can do to make her less hesitant and push her to give this a go? Originally Posted by davs8I've had 5 successful, long-term SD-SB relationships in 15 years, and I don't deceive myself by thinking the girls hang with me because I remind them of Robert Pattinson or something. But just like a good personality, or the ability to make me come through oral only, can smooth over an absence of perfect beauty in a woman, so can some green divert the attention of my SB away from my wrinkles and man breasts. Haha.
I think what you need is a plan. Your target is a kid, and kids need direction. They fear the unknown. They want something certain they can commit to. So take the time and write down some guidelines and go over them with the girl. Then she can make an informed choice.
btw, I wouldn't suggest giving the girl much money until you've played with her. If you fund her in advance, she might NEVER play with you, and all you'd have is an empty wallet. Or you might fund her and she'll play with you but she might be a washout in the sack. Then you'd kick yourself for investing your hard-earned simoleons in a little shitty bang-bang.
One of my SBs retired as a provider to be my SB, and having been through it, I'd probably never have a former provider as a SB again. Not to pull on anybody's panties here, but if my ex-provider SB expected me to pay her 100% of what all her johns were paying her put together, she doesn't understand time and money, unless I was banging her as much as all her johns put together. My ex-provider SB, seeing only me, would have more time to do other things, like go to college or work in a job which didn't risk jail and might lead to something better when her hair isn't so shiny and her tits begin to sag. So the first thing I think a provider would need to do to become a SB is to rethink her ideas regarding money and time.
