WTF!! They agreed on a session. He got laid and didn't even have the common courtesy to bring back some dinner. She may have been too trusting but he still stiffed her and she is doing her part to warn others.
Originally Posted by RangoFett
You have alot to learn! Just because you get laid, does not mean that you have to buy dinner (that actually does sound like a date then a session). She makes enough money for the session, (assuming her does not run out on her like this guy did), to buy her own dinner!
I think the lesson here is, is that one has to keep business seperate from pleasure. If you are going to have someone over for pleasure that you have had for business before, then you can expect the unexpected from him..He obviously read in your mind that the 2 of you were having such a good time, that he extended playtime into no-pay time. If you let a man take an inch, he will take a mile. I am sorry this happened to you, ( as I am sure we all have had things happen to us as providers over the years) , so let this be a lesson learned...MONEY BEFORE HAND!!...
Originally Posted by melissa012
I thought that "business" was GFE and the IOP, (Illusion of Pleasure), and that the session was suppose to be all about a good time, not just a business transaction, maybe I am wrong. If you gave a guy an inch he will take a mile, well the same can be said of a provider, if you go over and above her donation rate once, being your choice, then she will expect it the next time you see her. Very few guys have done what he did, as far as shorting her, much less, not paying a penny, which gives all hobbyists a bad name, and the same can be said vice versa about the shitty "going through the motions" service, if that good, as well as the drama that some providers are known for.
There has only been 3 times in all my sessions I have had that I have paid upfront, so that is a blind statement. Most guys are trustworthy enough, especially the "vets" of the board and/or if you have seen him before for a session, as in this case, that the donation is not required to be collected up front, but to each their own. I do agree that if he is new to see you, then you might want to get the donation first, or at least, have him lay the money on the dresser, fan it out, and leave it there, even if he has these "glowing" references from others.
Now that I have reread your post, you have seen him once, supposedly got paid your regular rate when you did, he gets in contact with you to see you again, you once again check his references for some reason, then you make the session appear to be a date, with other than just bedroom activities, which can be a good thing. Not that you are a clock watcher, although I have not had a session with you, (but from my conversations with you, you probably are), and you let the guy overstay his time that you assumed he was paying for, but you should have said something to him if you are that "anal", again from my conversations with you, you appear to be. Of course, hindsight is 20/20, but the BCD portion of your session was done, I would have asked him for the donation before he went to get you something to eat, after all, you had only seen him just the one other time and that would be very reasonable. Not to make light of the situation, but I bet he had no cash on him to begin with and then after he left, working up an appetite, he went to go get HIM something to eat!
Once again, sorry that you got ripped off, Savannah.