Ever get jealous???

I've never been jealous by a favorite, but when screening new clients and seeing some of the providers they've seen makes me a little intimidated. Originally Posted by GabrielaSweetheart

You shouldn't be intimidated. He chose you. A lot of hobbyists have various tastes. Sure there are a lot that only look for one type of provider, but if you weren't his type he probably wouldn't have contacted you. I know, not always the case but I wouldn't worry about it.

If one were to look at the providers I have been with he/she might not believe how I could go from barely legal to gilf. Hey, it is whatever I am in the mood for at the time.

I remember one provider telling me that when screening me she saw one of my reviews of a girl that is 5 feet tall. She was 6 feet tall and she thought I wouldn't like her. Not even close to true, I liked her and it was a great session. (for me at least)

I am like that in real life also. I like different types of women.

Oh and for me to stay on topic of this thread, I don't get jealous at all.

Although I will admit, that when I first joined the other board I got a little disappointed when a provider I had seen before didn't flirt with me in a thread like she did other posters, but I don't care now. I don't intend that to sound mean, but you can't let yourself get caught up in that kind of thing.

No...

I actually enjoy reading reviews of my favorite providers

It can be a turn on for me...makes me want to see her even more! Originally Posted by DickEmDown

Ditto

A ladyfriend once told me, after seeing a review I'd written (as that other lady's first client), that she was envious and wished she'd had someone like me for her first client. That strikes a perfect balance: not jealous, not possessive, not even directly asking for me to see her again -- just a way to express that she really enjoyed my company. I try to limit myself to the same type of reaction. For the most part, I've avoided jealousy, or possessiveness. Reading a review may make me yearn to visit the lady again, thoough, if it reminds me of how much I enjoy seeing her. And I may envy someone whose schedule and budget allows a rendezvous that would be impossible for me. But there is no resentment of her other clients, or desire that she stop seeing other clients.

But, although I mostly repress that sort of thing, sometimes (rarely) I experience a slight twinge of disappointment from a review of one of my favorite ladies. I'm not entirely sure why. Perhaps I've built up some idealized vision of her and then am jolted back to reality, because most ladies have idiosyncracies and faults, just as I do. But perhaps I've inappropriately allowed myself to feel that, yes, I might be one of her favorite clients. Some reviews (not all of them, certainly) may remind me that the lady makes a lot of guys feel like one of her favorite clients; there's nothing necessarily special about me. "Competing" with other clients that way is not exactly jealousy -- it's not really resentment of a "rival," and definitely not that I don't want her to see other clients -- but there are some similarities. In any event, it's stupid and unhealthy, not to mention unfair to the lady. It's relatively rare and when it happens I repress it immediately on a conscious level, while reminding myself that as long as she treats me well and enjoys my company, it's none of my business what she thinks of her other clients; this is not a competition. I'm not sure if any effect lingers on a subconscious level.

On the other hand, I find it almost impossible to believe that another guy might be jealous of me for having seen a lady or bothered by a review I wrote. A ladyfriend once told me of a situation like that; I'm still not sure I believe it. And none of the ladies I see have ever shown a hint of jealousy of the other ladies I see. I tend not to arouse strong emotions. Although, as a reasonably good client, I'm sure some of the ladies would have liked to have a larger share of my P4P $$$. But that's just good business, not emotion let alone jealousy.

When I say jealous, I'm not meaning that I'm pissed that some other guy is seeing "my girl." but in my way of thinking, sex is intimate and personal and sometimes there's just this little part of my heart that says, "damn... I wish that was me."

Then I return to sanity "get over it."

exactly, crossroads.......but i do think that "envious" is a better term for what we all are describing....jealous has far too many anger issues. I 'm not angry she's seeing other clients I just wish it was me instead. .I still read reviews and think, WOW! I wonder if she had more fun with him than with me?.....but then I do the math.......for every one time I see her......she has seen a few dozen "me's"......am I special? she tells me I am.....I choose to believe her .....

now if I read in a review she is doing something with another client she hasnt or wouldnt do with me......then I might get a little pissed......Uh uuuuh I mean "jealous"

Actually, jealousy is a secondary emotion caused by fear and insecurity. Ya'll are probably all more envious than jealous. Chevalier explains it very well above, when he writes about the lady who was envious.

I don't do jealousy, but I am envious a bit when one of my fav gents crosses into another ladies path. I wish it was me having that experience and hope he contacts me next time. Variety is the spice of life around here and I know I enjoy it. I don't begrudge others and hope that all are here to have fun with whoever and how many or few they decide to have fun with. It's all good!

I've seen jealousy ruin quite a few relationships and it was so unwarranted, but those folks just couldn't seem to stop the train wreck they were causing. I tried to help a friend see that's what was going on with them, and to some degree I think they could, but the fears and insecurities were stronger than their reasoning skills seemed to be at the time. It's really hard to help someone with something like that unless you have experienced it I guess..... Bad situation.

MAX i hope someday soon to make all your ATf's jealous, but in reality-
hell yes, I read my past favorites' reviews even before I read the review of someone that's on my radar- I compare them to my experience and ask myself:
1) are they just full of crap?
2) was it better than mine, and if not what could I have done better?
3) if there's anything to glean from the review that would make another session worth having to improve?
4) are those unanswered questions worth bumping them up on my list to see again?

I usually consult my big head first, but even though the answer to those questions is "Probably Not" it still doesn't prevent the fact that my initial reaction is to read reviews of ladies I've seen before first. Just a natural gut-level reaction, I think.

MAX i hope someday soon to make all your ATf's jealous, but in reality-
hell yes, I read my past favorites' reviews even before I read the review of someone that's on my radar- I compare them to my experience and ask myself: Originally Posted by DustyHands

I'm happy to work with you on that, my new pen pal....

I envy your past experiences with other ladies right now! LOL You should try reading your potential new ones first. At least until we see each other, and then you can resume BAU! I kid I kid....

I'm just jealous I don't make as much money as some, so I can't visit all the ladies I'd like. Oh well, time to look at the help wanted ads.

I'm just jealous I don't make as much money as some, so I can't visit all the ladies I'd like. Oh well, time to look at the help wanted ads. Originally Posted by Wordsmith

Awwww.....hope ya find something soon, so you can visit all ya want! :-) Until then, live vicariously here through those that do. Sometimes I think there are more who do that than actually hobby.....'-)

Until ya get in the situation where ya can see every lady ya want.....here's some virtual hugs and kisses just for you....xoxooxoxoxo

It's actually kind of a turn ON for me

It's actually kind of a turn ON for me Originally Posted by Bajaranger

One of my first loves was jealous. The first couple of times should have been a warning, but it was kind of flattering, then it just got tiresome, then annoying, and then....just too much for me to handle. Had to give him his walking papers! :-(

You should tell a potential lady that turns ya on....she may do a little jealous role play with ya....never know unless ya ask. LOL

I agree with Lana and Reese!!! I adore the gentlemen I see and I would like them all to myself. lol ...... I KID, I KID!!!

Max, makes a really good and valid point though.

From my perspective, the reason I got into this hobby was to have a different woman as often as I like... The newness of the experience is the turn on. The downside of this logic is one will meet a woman he clicks with and the subsequent providers, if the interaction isn't quite what was expected, leaves him wanting that something more. Confusing ? Yea, I never pretended to be all that. But new flesh... Like porn, or bikinis... Just new fun. New Secrets, New aromas, flavors, tastes, techniques. I have experienced a number of ladies, most of whom I really like. But I will continue my quest for the new, and happily greet the previously visited providers at the socials, or other appropriate venues when we do cross paths: Like these threads !