Any other "attached" guys finding it harder to hobby these days?

Nice Carl, the plot thickens....
ThrillBill88's Avatar
Well Mr. E, I think you have your answer: 1) There are ladies out there who prefer pre-booking. You just haven't found them yet. 2) The field is going to be somewhat narrowed because some ladies do not pre-book due to a much higher NCNS/cancellation rate for guys who pre-book. 3) Better communication may help you win some of those girls over. 4) Your Mr. E I.D. better go far far away very soon or you're going to be in some deep Eccie shit.

I must say that I've enjoyed this thread and learned a few things from it. I've been hobbying for abouth 3 years now, and the closest I've ever come to pre-booking is scheduling maybe, 8 hours before. I'm a very spontaneous kind of guy. It's been interesting reading the ladies take on this topic.

Something you may want to consider when trying to pre-book: Tell her you're from California and you'll buy her a Rolex.
am-a-pleaser's Avatar
I have to plan, but it seems like the ladies like to confirm the arrangements the day of the meeting. I stay in contact so they know I'm serious and will not be a ncns. As stated by others, some prefer pre-booking, others don't. Take your time. Planning or last minute still never assures a meeting.

Personally, I prefer email first to explain. Do you have a hobby phone? Maybe a pre-paid phone would help. Keep it on silent and keep it well-hidden. If it's ever found, explain you found it in the parking lot.
rCoder's Avatar
I'm usually a planner, one or more weeks in advance. Usually a very small window of opportunity. So I try to be screened a week or two in advance, then set a tentative time/date, with a confirmation at least 3 days in advance. Then send "looking forward to seeing you" type messages leading up to the date. This serves two purposes, it let's her know I'm serious and committed, and let's me know that the schedule is looking good.

Now I'll admit even that hasn't always worked, so also try to have a short notice gal on speed dial for plan B.

I'd recommend doing your research paying attention to the TCB part of the reviews. IMO, TCB is at least of third of a session's quality.
Dagny D.E.W.'s Avatar
most body rubs are set same day but I love the advance notice so that I too have something planned.

I really don't understand why some ladies D.E.W. not want advance booking. It makes it easier to screen. We all hate the NSNC but a note the night before is comforting.

I agree with telling them why you need to have advance notice. it is also great when both sides are on time.
ztonk's Avatar
  • ztonk
  • 04-12-2010, 08:21 PM
These days, I rarely ever do a same day appointment. I usually book several days (or even weeks) in advance. That makes it easy for me to plan for my absence from work. I (or the lady) usually reconfirm 24 hours in advance. If we don't, I'll email, text, or call (or some combination) the day of to confirm.

I understand that real life can interrupt hobby life which makes prebooking somewhat problematic, but "make up appointments" are so much fun!

My experience with agencies is that they are best used for same day appointments.

My 2¢...
VictoriaLyn's Avatar
I tend to do what ever is easiest for the gent...prebook or same day last minute I dont care if I am free I am yours
Looking at the amount of time that you put into trying to get a provider and the hassles of trying to keep things scheduled on the down low, plus all those risks, and the such............it's a hobby........you bitching about having a tough time getting laid and not have your SO find out............Oh the humanity. What has it come to when we have to adhere to another persons schedule. It's tough bein a man and all. I can't tell you how bad we have it when we have to try to indulge our desires while hiding and using our master skills of deception that we learned from old 007 movies.

Wow, and to think. I just want my girl to stop working long enough to call a friend for us both. Geeeezzzze!

Ok! I gave my 2 cents. You gave me a penny for my thoughts and I still come up in the hole.

Wouldn't you know it.
bigmarv's Avatar
I'm still trying to figure out why someone in a committed relationship would ever want to see a provider. Relationships are hard enough to make work without adding the distraction of a provider. Just my .02 cents.
Sir Hardin Thicke's Avatar
Mr. Mann, I can understand your need to be meticulous in planning your extra-curricular activities. You may need to shorten the window of opportunity between your time and the average time to pre-book a provider. If three or maybe two days out is too much for a lady or an agency to work with your schedule, then see how you can shorten the length of time from your end to that of a provider's preferred booking time, or just find a provider who can give you all you want...
harkontume's Avatar
I'm still trying to figure out why someone in a committed relationship would ever want to see a provider. Relationships are hard enough to make work without adding the distraction of a provider. Just my .02 cents. Originally Posted by bigmarv
Let me help you understand.

1. longterm illness which precludes "relations"
2. longterm relationship in which the wife forgets she is married to a MAN and MEN have needs resulting in:
a. no sex
b. begging sex
c. "is it over yet" sex
If you have not experienced the above you havent lived with someone long enough " YET".

3. Some men are just horndogs.
BoobsmanBoobs's Avatar
Dude,

You can't get a pre-book and I can't get a last minute. I am Mr. Last-minute and I never know when I will get a window of opportunity. When I do it's off to the races. I get a call at 4:30pm, the kid is off playing with a friend until 8pm, check funds, start calling. Usually around 5:30 I know if I am going to get laid or not. I am with you on the time of day though. I need early evening/late night most of the time. I really hate it when I find a yes and when it comes time to meet, it's just me and the crickets. I just keep trying and realize that it's probably just as hard for the ladies to juggle Mr. Last-minute.

Boobs