Hobby disappointments

I've been playing this internet hobby for a long time now..... I have enjoyed more than I haven't. The disasters have been memorable. The outfuckingstanding times are even more memorable!! I suspect.... sincerely hope.... things will remain the same!!

Giz

P.S. - We're talking about females here..... who expects less than a roller coaster ride?

..... the ones who travel with a boyfriend/pimp.... Let's start put thier names out there so others will know and avoid them..... Originally Posted by jhende3

I'm not sure what their traveling (or, @ home) mates have to do with anything! Are you insinuating that every boyfriend/husband/SO is a worthless pimp? Many of these chicks lead more ordinary lives than you might be able to possibly imagine!!

Just Giz's $.02

It was the names of the providers I was referring too. Not thier husbands or boyfriends name. I'm talking about the providers who have their BF waiting outside the room when a date is going on. Or the ones that get the money from you and tell you what they ain't doing and since thier BF is ouside what you ain't doing about it either !

Oddly enough, I have never had any of those things happen yet. I have only seen 30 or so providers, but nothing even close to this has happened. The worse thing was my first provider was not the girl in the pics on CL, so I walked away.

I try to research the ladies, but every once in a while I will TOFTT (usually an ELF). I think you usually get about what you pay for. If a girl is advertising BBBJNQNS and Greek for $.25, usually there is a catch.

You know how I feel about it...I think you are 'TOO GOOD" of a person for this and do not possess the sexual deviance a man must have in order to continue and get that deep into it. I think your fantasy quickly emerged as reality when you realized it is a business for the providers, and no not all women are that happy about being stuck in it for what ever reason, especially when their self worth is measured in dollar signs. You experienced the the good, and the 2 ladies was probably your ultimate fantasy, so what's next right? I have always said that some things need to be left a fantasy, because when you run out of them by doing them then what else is there? You deserve more than what you have been getting at an hourly rate. You are a good person, and Im actually relieved to see you backing off and not getting in to deep, and if you feel this way now I would follow that feeling to stop or take a break--figure out what it truly is that you are looking for. Some people in it are so lost they cant decipher reality from fantasy, its their world, in their homes, relationships, family--they have become it, it is what defines them.

..... Some people in it are so lost they cant decipher reality from fantasy, its their world, in their homes, relationships, family--they have become it, it is what defines them. Originally Posted by chellablaine

Chella.... It's great to see you, still posting here!!

Giz

Yes it is isnt it, being that I was here way before you were....I figured why the hell not, I have some free time waiting for March to get here, plus I think you miss me, I mean, who else would you have to be a smartass too if it werent for me. Gotta keep Giz entertained ya know.

..... Gotta keep Giz entertained ya know. Originally Posted by chellablaine

You're doing a Fine-Fine job!!

* WHO * DAT * ? ?
Giz

Yeh I think I might just follow your lead and follow everyone elses every move, I might even get listed as a top poster! WoooHOOO! now that is deff who dat worthy Gizzo!

It was the names of the providers I was referring too. Not thier husbands or boyfriends name. I'm talking about the providers who have their BF waiting outside the room when a date is going on. Or the ones that get the money from you and tell you what they ain't doing and since thier BF is ouside what you ain't doing about it either ! Originally Posted by jhende3

If that's what you were referring to.... yes, I agree, wholeheartedly!! BUT.... I have never put myself into that situation..... perhaps, we should all should consider high quality online purchases over the CL/BP flea market approach!! (I only say that, because I have never heard of such behavior from a proven , positively reviewed , ASPD , TER type girl!!)

I figured if Chella could alienate an entire class of client/provider..... the flea market comment might be considered mainstream!

Giz

So like was the boyfriend hiding when ya got there? I still dont get the whole boyfriend/provider relationship with the exception of a few that have kind of explained it to me and it made more sense the their case. Sounds to me like her bf was her pimpdaddy.

How did I alienate anyone giz? Did what I state hurt your feelings? Why would you take it personally if it didnt apply to you, or does it? hmmmm. touchy touchy arent we. Toughen up Gizzo...I think I stated it quite nicely and was not referring to anyone in particular. It was a generalization, some are cut out for the hobby and some arent.

I guess I could speak for a lot of the hobbist here and say to all providers, that a boyfriend/pimp/manager lurking around doesn't make for a good time. It always have smelled like a robbery or an ass whopping to me. Maybe some providers aren't meant to be providers. That's where you get all these girls that are only looking to make some fast money to pay some past due bills because their BF/husband mismanaged the money and their looking at a eviction come Monday and there is no way they could make it at the strip club this weekend in time. But Im just guessing lol

I think Outdoorsmen and JHende are experiencing two issues entirely separate of each other.

Outdoorsmen, I agree with the candy shop metaphor. Maybe you're seeking a more friendly provider who at least seems like she wants to know you. Unfortunately, that's hard to find because overall motivation is monetary usually. Some women do exist to make a quick buck, and even if you "out" them on these boards, they will continue to function in their situation. Yeah, it sucks. I'm sorry that our schedules have never aligned.

Chella: Having a boyfriend while providing is extremely difficult... at least for me. I don't date dudes who would specifically be ok with the lifestyle, not in their early to mid-twenties at least. I'm sure there are guys like that that do exist, but they're usually not my type. Generally, I just don't date, and I keep boys in different cities pining over me. After long day of providing, why not kick back and enjoy my own selfish BCD? I simply don't understand it either, but then again, clean cut, white collar types are what I like in terms of romantic situations, not alternative guys who lead questionable lives themselves. Hypocritical? Maybe. That's why I don't date, haaa.

I agree with Giz. My life is relatively normal. I pretty much have the same concerns as any other girl my age. My job just isn't considered the most wholesome or socially acceptable in "polite society." Funny how polite society can most often afford to frequent the services of a provider, eh?

I have only had the experience of meeting the significant other of a provider on one occasion. Giz will remember her. Probably the best provider I have ever met, a young lady by the name of Jenny, required that you be interviewed by her husband prior to your first appointment. I was a bit taken by that request at first. But, he turned out to be pretty cool. And after the first appiontment, I never saw the guy. I hope it is ok to post Jenny's name. Giz will remember her, and I am sure he had the experience of meeting her significant other as well. If I were told today that I had to meet the boyfriend, or a provider told me her boyfriend was in the room next door. I would probably politely tell the young lady that it was very nice of her to tell me that, and walk out the door.

Yeah..... the whole "meeting before play - evaluation thing" , in Jenny's case was okay..... definitely different!! But I can tell ya, that she was regarded by several guys as one of the finest playmates to ever grace the hobby!! Anyone who passed, due to the oddity of the situation.... Missed Out.... BIGTIME!!

My point was.... there are many-many high quality , successful , married/attached providers out there who lead very normal , successful , and balanced lives! PTA - Soccer Moms included!! Usually.... the hobby world never even has a clue!!

The fact that a provider has a boyfriend or husband has nothing to do with what level of quality experience they provide!! Any attempt to belittle or denigrate them, only exposes the questionable moral character and lifestyle of the mud-slingers.... not them!


Giz