As a member of the Army he is obligated to keep his finances in order, regardless if she is living in it or not so a letter to CO letting him know the finances only might wake him up.
Communication with the attorney costs money every time, he is probably saving her money as there are no new facts.
She can't sell the house and likely cannot afford the cost of mustering a legal assault to get it, and if she did she probably doesn't have the money to catch up the arrears.
Screwing around use to be a crime, then it was a you lose everything including the kids, but these days it don't mean shit in a divorce case, just don't bring your new girl friend or boy friend to the hearing.
What strip club is she working at, Whispers? Are you going to vouch for her to get Verified?
This issue with Deployment and spreading the seeds around is very common, it happens she just needs to get over it an move on, make a new life for herself and do what she can with the money she gets.
And stay away from Mongers, from this site, including me..
- colt
- 07-08-2014, 05:25 PM
- Whispers
- 07-13-2014, 12:03 AM
She's not a stripper nor is she looking to get verified. I asked the question here because as a group, membership here tends to see a bit more desperation and divorce issues than other people I have access to.
- Cpalmson
- 07-26-2014, 12:40 AM
I'm assuming he's an enlisted puke. If he were an officer, the command would pay much closer attention to her needs and complaints. Also, going to the CO/CO's staff is often not the best approach as there are conflicting interests involved. Many times, the military will protect military within the unit.
Most bases have family support centers that assist family members who are deployed. Usually, they will be able to point her in the right direction since the support center is usually immune from the command influence of her husbands actual unit. Also, talking to the chaplains is a good idea.
The problem with the military is this. About 25-30 years ago in the 80s, Congress stuck their noses into the way domestic disputes were handled in the military, There were a lot of sob stories from women about how military men just dumped women and left them destitute. Congress passed a lot of laws that then became very unfair to the military member. I can see why this guy would be willing to take her down with him. Basically as laws are now, the military member takes a huge hit in any divorce, so there is a lot of bitterness. Now, there is a movement to swing things back into a more fair situation, but the pendulum is just now starting to swing back. However, given the current president and Demo-rats in the Senate, there probably won't be any movement for several years. Simply put, this guy is taking the scorched earth policy, and he doesn't care if he gets burned in the process. When someone goes down this route, he's going to "win", and there is not much she can do other than face the poor credit score. As crappy as it may sound, she may want to per-emptively file for bankruptcy. At least that would start the clock on when she could recover her credit rating.
Most bases have family support centers that assist family members who are deployed. Usually, they will be able to point her in the right direction since the support center is usually immune from the command influence of her husbands actual unit. Also, talking to the chaplains is a good idea.
The problem with the military is this. About 25-30 years ago in the 80s, Congress stuck their noses into the way domestic disputes were handled in the military, There were a lot of sob stories from women about how military men just dumped women and left them destitute. Congress passed a lot of laws that then became very unfair to the military member. I can see why this guy would be willing to take her down with him. Basically as laws are now, the military member takes a huge hit in any divorce, so there is a lot of bitterness. Now, there is a movement to swing things back into a more fair situation, but the pendulum is just now starting to swing back. However, given the current president and Demo-rats in the Senate, there probably won't be any movement for several years. Simply put, this guy is taking the scorched earth policy, and he doesn't care if he gets burned in the process. When someone goes down this route, he's going to "win", and there is not much she can do other than face the poor credit score. As crappy as it may sound, she may want to per-emptively file for bankruptcy. At least that would start the clock on when she could recover her credit rating.