Dating an Escort....

oh my, I hope to be on the guest list

Kelly....If I become a provider will you marry me????? LOL!!!

I agree with Jolie. If you simply hide behind the "job" odds are against you. With that said, even if you don't believe you have to have monogamy for a successful relationship you still have to realize it is a job...especially if you are sitting at home some Friday or Saturday night while your spouse is "working."

Doable....absolutely. Easy....no way!!

I think it is better to keep looking for the right person then changing yourselves to fit each others needs.

I don't think it matters that you can't reconcile your feelings with logic.
~1TGA Originally Posted by 1thatgotaway

YES!! YES!! YES!! YES!! YES!! YES!!

The answer to Kelly's original question is a definitive NO. However, it is not because of your line of work, it is out of human nature in general. It also depends on your definition of "relationship". Realtionships that work do so out of give and take, sacrifice, and hard work. So the answer for me is still no.

It rarely happens really, but in the normal world workspace, you sometimes meet the kind of special someone who really flips your switch. It is not the sale nor the working out a contract with that person, but rather it is getting to know them, seeing them master the pressure of the situation, their vocabulary, their intelligence,or their style. You feel the attraction and the sparks can fly.

But in the provider line of work it is raw sexual energy, the excitement of the act, and the elements of special sexual intimacy that you both experience. If you can fall for someone while reviewing contracts or making joint sales then it can happen in your line of work as well. It makes no sense for me to allow my SO (if she were a provider) to sample other guys at the most intimate and vulnerable of levels while I cannot do the same with the female persuasion. It is a recipe for disastor---the proverbial Karosene on the fire. It is NOT wrong per se, it is allowing the danger of fire to permeate the relationship when it doesn't have to. I love you now go fuck some hot studs today!!!

If you can fall for someone by being close in a business environment you can fall for them while experiencing the most intimate of acts as well. I certainly do not want to compromise the relationship by allowing my provider SO to ignite a match while dipped in karosene. Too much temptation to stray when you are in the most vulnerable physical position of being naked and fucking. Not being prudish here just realistic.

If you are swinging or have an understanding then it is fine, but I am not allowing anyone with whom I have a realtionship--- provider or not---to live by one set of rules while I live by another.

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Dating sites can be really useful when you choose them correctly. I always check the reviews and comments from other users before creating a profile on a new platform, see this here what you need to check before signing up. This approach will help you avoid scammers and fraudsters that are hunting for victims on many sites. So make your choice reasonably. Originally Posted by mdooos

I see you searched on Kelly as well. Usually I scorn folks who resurrect TWELVE YEAR OLD threads - but it caught my eye for sure.

I met Kelly several times - none were private - but I'm glad she's back around.

I dated/ lived with a provider for 10 months when I lived in Florida. I was supporting her completely and our deal was, as long as I'm supporting you, you won't work as an escort. There was also a major and I mean major age difference. In the end, she wanted her independence. That was 5 years ago. Since, she has been in jail 4 times and has had 2 babies she couldn't keep.

When it's an inch it has to be scratched. I doubt that relationship has any chance to succeed past a month.

I did briefly when I lived in Austin. It only last like 3 weeks.
She had kind of a short fuse. And not gonna lie, I’m not the easiest person to date either so ��♂️

But it was a great experience and I have no regrets.

I’d seen her as a client a few times, and we occasionally flirted over text.
Eventually she invited me over to her place, and she made me dinner.
I ended up staying the night, but we slept together, as in literally. Just sleep. No sex.
I think we only went out like 3-4 times.
Not gonna lie, having sex with her was amazing(for me anyway) and was like a massive boost for my self-esteem at the time.
It was a little odd, because she was NOT okay with me fucking other girls. Escort or otherwise. She was very possessive.
But yeah it didn’t work out, even it weren’t for the hobby thing, she was a fitness competitor and I’m a serial procrastinator so…
I knew what I was getting myself into though. There are quite a few posts in the Austin boards with stories about her BSCness ��

Worth it though. Totally worth it.

there are two parts of this possible relationship that are getting conflated.

1. what she does for her work
if her work involves having sex w/ guys, the BF has to decide if he is okay w/ that.
if he is, then they need to decide if she is okay w/ him having sex w/ providers.

2. what are their rules/agreements wrt seeing others.
separately, they need to decide if either can have sex w/ non-providers (quasi- or fully-open relationship).

just cos she has sex w/ guys for her job does not me that he can have sex w/ providers nor does it mean that either can have sex w/ non-providers.

they need to figure out what they are comfortable with.
and realize that they can revisit their agreement at any time.
that's how some relationships work.

Lets be honest, the 2 have to love each other. There has to be more than just good sex between them. Ladies this is NOT a job. You may attempt to approach it as pragmatically possible, but sex is sex for whatever the reason. The ONLY Man that tells you he's comfortable having sex with other men; is a pimp! Lol! This notion that the relationship can survive under these conditions is a farce. Our ego's are too fragile...out at dinner some guy looks at your SO or GF with a sexual familiarity, dinners over! Lol! Even if we were wrong. Its in our brains. Leave the bizness get a real career, he closes these sites and give it a shot. If it works, you'll be the exception, NOT THE NORM.

I have a girl in the business that's trying to date me. I'm actually picking her up from another state and we're going to travel together. Idk if I'm cool with her maintaining a position in the business though.

I dated/ lived with a provider for 10 months when I lived in Florida. I was supporting her completely and our deal was, as long as I'm supporting you, you won't work as an escort. There was also a major and I mean major age difference. In the end, she wanted her independence. That was 5 years ago. Since, she has been in jail 4 times and has had 2 babies she couldn't keep. Originally Posted by wizzbang

Sounds like the typical hooker end game, any fast $ has it's downfalls! I wouldn't get involved with a woman that gets stuffed for a living, those type of women have their place, like someone else mentioned pimps are their pretend BF, they brainwash them that they got love for them and look over them as long as they give them their $, they're really protecting their money maker, without the girls, they'll be stuck at home without any gas $

I would not , but married 4 X so , I would not get married again ,,,

Infidelity under any act is a high hurdle to clear. If it has ANY chance, she has to get out of the biz! I have a long time friend, provider ALL the terms apply, but hearing the John stories? Lol! Not good relationship builders! Lmao SMH