bolded text = the main point. for me, unless i ask [and i rarely do] i dont want to know about their real lfe relationships, their finances problems, their kids' problems, their car problem, their real life world problems.
i have discussed w/ providers things about their real life, but it's usually things we have in common or might, like music, art, the arboretum, restaurants, travel, etc.
the underlined text = like samantha thom asked, what fantasy??
you know that the provider is seeing other guys. and probably has a significant other or husband.
what fantasy of yours is being ruined?
and she probably knows you are seeing other providers. i imagine that most providers dont have a fantasy being ruined like yours might be.
like samantha thom wrote, providers are people, just like you and me, w/ all the ups/downs, head screwed on straight/crooked, likes/dislikes, laughs/cries, etc.
i say - treat em with respect and compassion and they'll probably treat you the same way.
Originally Posted by pmdelites
Right on, pmdelites!
I cannot comprehend what 'fantasy' is being ruined? We have fun in our session and will go on our separate lives.
I think some guys (I'm not saying the OP) think we providers are not allowed to have real normal lives. That we're supposed to be single, broke, depressed, screwed up, waiting for the phone to ring for appt, and available 24/7 to satisfy their needs. They need to realize we are no different from them. We have family, real friends, social circles, other hobbies, interests, love interest, life goals, etc, etc, etc. A lot of us do quite well, have a good balanced lifestyle, and actually normal enough to have normal men to be in love with us. And some of us even thrive in competitive sports or arts. Do not underestimate us. :-)