Help with Negative References

Just tell him you need more references. But be specific, like they need to be reputable verified Eccie providers. He'll be annoyed, & he'll either understand or move on.

I don't think I have to worry about him knowing I'm talking about him, I have about 100 verification requests in my inbox right now. lol Thank you all for your help.

I knew it! Just click the multi-quote buttons from each post you want to add and then click Quote for all of them to show up in the message window. Originally Posted by KCSmutMonkey

Thank you!

If that is his only reference then you really don't need to say "So and so said this" since he only gave you one reference. I would be more inclined to say that you don't feel comfortable seeing him since he has limited references. Originally Posted by Menthril

I guess I didn't think to go that direction. I like it.

Your best course of action is to give me a free session. Originally Posted by Stanfeld

New business model? Free sessions if you cannot provide references! lol

I know someone who knows someone who knows someone who knows someone who knows Kevin Beacon!

That is my step neighbor in law.

I don't think I have to worry about him knowing I'm talking about him, I have about 100 verification requests in my inbox right now. lol Thank you all for your help. Originally Posted by Bristol.kc

Yes, actually that is exactly the point, and yes actually that is why this question should have been asked in Infoshare. Whoever your one bad reference guy is, he's on here, and he's looking at your post. If it happens that more than one guy fits the description of only having one reference, now ALL of them are wondering if their one reference just bad mouthed them.

Again, this question should be asked in Infoshare, not here.

Yes, actually that is exactly the point, and yes actually that is why this question should have been asked in Infoshare. Whoever your one bad reference guy is, he's on here, and he's looking at your post. If it happens that more than one guy fits the description of only having one reference, now ALL of them are wondering if their one reference just bad mouthed them.

Again, this question should be asked in Infoshare, not here. Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh

That's what I was thinking. Takin the words outta my head girl lol

You got it! That is exactly what it is. j/k

(Can someone teach me how to "multi-quote" lol) Originally Posted by Bristol.kc

Hay,

I want to know what provider was able to pull that out of him.
I can't do that. Wow, what an accomplishment!

I have had a girl do that during sex, but not often.

JR

Maybe I was misleading, she did not bad mouth him at all. She just stated a particular activity she didn't personally like and thought I should know ahead of time what I was getting into. Some providers may be okay with it, I am just not.
I put it here because I wanted clients opinions too, sorry if that was wrong. It an be moved or whatever now, I got the help I needed.

Go with your instincts and the advice. Call this one a no go

Maybe I was misleading, she did not bad mouth him at all. She just stated a particular activity she didn't personally like and thought I should know ahead of time what I was getting into. Some providers may be okay with it, I am just not.
I put it here because I wanted clients opinions too, sorry if that was wrong. It an be moved or whatever now, I got the help I needed. Originally Posted by Bristol.kc

Does this client consider the activity in question to be a deal breaker if you refused to do it? If he agreed that this activity would not be part of the session, would you still see him? Or does the fact that this client engages in the activity-in-question in the first place turn you off to him completely?

He is "safe", just does some things BCD that are undesirable. Originally Posted by Bristol.kc

So, holding the lady down through multiple DATY O's isn't a good thing?!?!?!?

I don't want to hurt his feelings... Originally Posted by Bristol.kc

Don't you think he will see this entire thread and know anyway? Originally Posted by DestinyInKC

Whoever your one bad reference guy is, he's on here, and he's looking at your post. Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh

Ok, Ok... I got the message!

You know Wiz..

As much as we hate to have to admit it, not all ladies are into DATY.. it is a sad sad thing.

Lucky for us that some like Bristol*... LOVE IT.

*I have not had the pleasure of meeting Bristol, my statement is purely speculation from reading all her great reviews.

If it is just that he wants a service that you wouldn't want to provide I don't really see how it would be much of an issue.

The way I see it, you can be polite but honest and let him know why he wont be seen. If it is just an activity you don't want, a rational guy will accept it. If he is not rational you are screwed either way

Or you can not respond, not let him know, or leave him hanging and it probably will look bad on you. I have said negative things about girls that don't respond or have poor communication. I don't think I really have much to hide about what I like other than I love short notice which I think annoys some girls (Im up front about not expecting it). If the activity is not something you offer it is something you don't offer. If the reference is bringing it up I would bet she doesn't want to preform it either and probably would prefer not to see him again.

Its hard to give accurate advice without all of the info, but that is the best I can do.

So, holding the lady down through multiple DATY O's isn't a good thing?!?!?!? Ok, Ok... I got the message! Originally Posted by Wizard of Ahhhhs

Oh it's good! Until the hotel front desk calls because were being too loud

You know Wiz..

As much as we hate to have to admit it, not all ladies are into DATY.. it is a sad sad thing.

Lucky for us that some like Bristol*... LOVE IT.

*I have not had the pleasure of meeting Bristol, my statement is purely speculation from reading all her great reviews. Originally Posted by ElumEno

I do! I do! I doooooo!

So, holding the lady down through multiple DATY O's isn't a good thing?!?!?!? Originally Posted by Wizard of Ahhhhs

Oh it's good! Until the hotel front desk calls because were being too loud Originally Posted by Bristol.kc

As much as we hate to have to admit it, not all ladies are into DATY.. Lucky for us that some like Bristol*... LOVE IT. Originally Posted by ElumEno

I do! I do! I doooooo! Originally Posted by Bristol.kc

I seriously need to update my "to-do" list!