That’s not it. The answer is you can’t have a discussion about submissiveness in a sexual situation without “the sub and dom thing” coming up. They are too closely aligned in most peoples’ eyes, which is why I’d like to hear more women describe what they mean when they use the term, drawing particular distinctions from the BDSM world if that is not what they intend.
Originally Posted by TinMan
I share the exact same sentiment I poorly tried to convey earlier. I'd like to hear more from the ladies on this.
Submission is always on a gradient, it can never be just black and white to distill down to BDSM or Not. It starts from the most innocent of submissive behaviors, like letting someone pick your meal at a restaurant to the most vile with degradation.
If we're keeping the thread vanilla and not within the realm of BDSM, what threshold would submission fall within? Going from picking my flavor of ice cream up to a hair pull? spanking? Does spanking the booty now count as the lowest entry point into BDSM?