In my case, my wife injured her back when we were both 25. The nerve damage resulted in her refusing sex from that year on. Basically now she is 'asexual', she does not want to participate in anything sexual, nor even hear about others who do have sex.
My religion only allows me to divorce her if she were to cheat on me. She is not about to cheat, so I can not divorce her. For me to get sex, I must go somewhere else.
My wife is still a solid business partner and a good friend.
There have been a few instances where friends have seemed to be available to me. But out of respect for my wife, I want something more discrete.
That is always there for men who have accomplishments in their lives: it is to be avoided. The hobby keeps our lives private.
I am not going to pickup girls at a bar. I will not disrespect my wife in that manner.
My profession has the highest divorce-rate, I have known a lot of INCELs.
As much as I try to hate females, I am addicted to their touch.
Originally Posted by RetiredSubmariner
We are alot alike.
My wife is older than me, and my best friend. Finding a friend is more important than sex. At this point in her life, there is no sex: but, I love her more than any three of these young guys could begin to comprehend.
The hobby has some good points, and some very bad people that we should avoid: we should to do our homework.
My first wife was my highschool sweetheart who gave me two children: she died young of breast cancer. After a long time without that gave me a prostate irritation, I found the hobby: it was a mental lifesaver. I had longed to feel the touch of a women, and to keep myself mentally straight for the sake of my children. When I began consideration of another life partner, the hobby was given up.
My second wife gave me stepchildren that I truly love. But she died too. Repeate the time in the hobby.
I found a third woman who was a true friend, but much older than me: today her lack of ability to provide sex doesn't matter, she is a friend who brought me more stepchildren: I love her very much. Today I take care of her. She has brought it up: what do I do about sex? I have told her that I masterbate, and I still love her. Every day, I hug her and tell her I love her. I will not worry her about something she can no longer give to me: it is a gift that was given to me for many years.
The women in my life have brought children, stepchildren, step grandchildren and great grandchildren: That is what is important in life.
Everyone has a need for sex, but no one should use sex to take advantages of others. I consider the money as just a thank you for something that is very personal to everyone.
Avoid the thugs in the hobby: they are only here because they are not qualified to do anything else. Some people can not find a real job, so the have to do anything they can to exist.
If you are in the hobby, look for people who are better than that.