Man-Delay

It really is just mind over matter. It is a mind control thing. I used to cum in a few minutes, but now can last with the best of them 20-30 minutes of going at it good. I try to keep in my mind a scale of 1 to 10. 10 being not able to hold it. I keep my nut under control by trying to maintain an 7 or 8 on the cummer scale (simular to the rictor scale, but stickier). When I have had enought I get them in positions that make me cum faster or just let my mind know it is ok to let go. I have never taken medication for this, but have been using the mind control thing for the last 5 or 6 years and it works for me.
Cpalmson's Avatar
I'm definitely not a one and done guy. My normal routine is to do exactly as Valerie suggested. I'm usually good for 2 or 3 more shots, but they are very weak. Plus lately, I have had trouble getting up, but a gal with good oral skills gets me off and am not even completely hard yet. I love MSOG but I really would like to last more than 3o seconds on the 1st shot. I definitely agree that familiarity helps ease the excitement. I usually last 60 seconds with a repeat provider
... I definitely agree that familiarity helps ease the excitement.... with a repeat provider Originally Posted by Cpalmson
Relax....let it go.....whatever happens - happens. If you let it get in your head (hope it's not too late) you'll drive yourself nuts about it. Enjoy the feeling/experience and don't overthink it!!
tuckahoe's Avatar
Try practicing bringing yourself near orgasm, then stop and rest. When the feelings subside a little, stroke some more. Keep repeating.
If you still come too soon, you can always spend a lot of time dining at the Y!
awl4knot's Avatar
Cpalmson, maybe you need to vary your routine. Many sessions begin with a BBBJ that only ends just before the guy is ready to pop. Then the gal gets on top for a vigorous CG that finishes the deal.

So if that is a routine that provokes an early pop, change it. DATY to warm her up and allow yourself some time to have indirect stimulation. When its time for CFS, try CG but tell her to go real slow so you get used to the warmth and tension and you can control the urge to come quickly and let it pass. And when you start to move a bit, just slow it down when the urge to come arises.

This is where a more experienced provider is invaluable. She will know exactly what is needed and will make the session warm, fun and rewarding. But it is up to you communicate about your issue and the need for a plan.
RickForFun's Avatar
Here is your cure. Just takes a little work.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M39MW...eature=related
TexTushHog's Avatar
SSRI's and SSRNI's -- two forms of anti-depressants -- are prescribed by a few docs for this problem. They tend to block neural pathways in the penis for some reason. Many times they will grow back, but not always. I was in hog heaven for the first few months after I started on SSRI's. I could easily last ten to twenty times as long (though I admittedly was starting from a very low base.) However, most docs frown on this practice. Other than that, if you have the problem badly enough, in my experience, there is no good solution.

Diabetic neuropathy can also have the same effect, but you certainly don't want that. So in the end, your best option is to treat cumming like you do voting -- do it early and do it often.
JohnMacnab's Avatar
Everybody wants to be able to fuck like a porn star. But in the real world, the average woman is satisfied with about 10 to 15 minutes if intercourse before she is ready for you to cum. Go longer than that and the average woman just wants you to get it over with.

So count your blessings and enjoy your multiple pops. I would give my left eye in exchange for being able to MSOG. Early ejaculation is very treatable. Success rates run 90% with therapy.

Delayed ejaculation on the other hand is not nearly as common and also is nearly impossible to treat. 5 to 15 % success with treatment. The problem is that it is nearly always mental. Usually associated with repressed guilt feelings. Think 12 years of Catholic school brainwashing starting at 6 years of age. Or some other issues that would cause guilt.

That being said you might get lucky and find a girl friend who is wired more like a male and just plain loves to fuck for hours. Chances are, though, that she probably has some issues also.

Life is interesting.
Still Looking's Avatar
My depression ALWAYS goes away after I Cum!?
Madame X's Avatar
So long as I'm able to revive you after you let go of your first O, there's no problem. The first one always seems to be the quickest for guys... too bad women are designed the complete *opposite* way, lol. By the third or fourth roll around we should be in sync

Please don't use Man-Delay! Long story short, it makes my face go numb.

~Mme X~
MAn-delay does work. However you have to be careful. If it get's inside a provider she will lose her sensation and not feel anything. I think you should try tantric breathing excercises. As much as i think it is bogus for massages, the breathing techniques are very effective.
chrissy's Avatar
It's best to just go ahead and let the first one out quickly love...There's always round two...or three..or more Originally Posted by Valerie

+1 +1 +1 hehe Going quickly is not a big issue to me or to many other providers.Not finishing atall could be if a good time was not had by all parties involved.. Be glad you can keep going and going and going CPALMSON I was you did heheh ..
pickupkid's Avatar
try thinking of something else ...like multiplication tables. try to name the states capitals....sounds silly but give it a try.
awl4knot's Avatar
try thinking of something else ...like multiplication tables. try to name the states capitals....sounds silly but give it a try. Originally Posted by pickupkid
I'm not sure what balderdash is but this so-called advice surely is balderdash. Just imagine that you are engaged in K9 behind an all universe piece of ass and you try to remember states' capitals? When I am so engaged I can barely remember my name much less remember if Alabama precedes Alaska and if Montgomery or Selma is the capital city. Who cares?

Maybe if you suggested reciting the batting average of the Oakland A's I would endorse your
distraction theory, but states' capitals is a kids game.
pickupkid's Avatar
thats the whole idea..Oakland A battering avg is just fine..the whole idea is your'e thinking of something else other than sex