I would want to know. I would think that anyone would want to know if something they had said or done was too careless.
I don't think anyone would want it out here in public.
I would suggest that you draft a message to him and put exactly what he said that led you to the judgment you made but do not name the name you came up with. Make it non threatening and do not state any possible implication. Just the facts.
If he does not respond respect that and move on. If he does you will need to decide what to say next. Originally Posted by FinallySingleNReady2Live
Agree. On ASPD a few people figured out my RW identity, mostly because I didn't much care. Nobody would ever vote for me anyway, I have no SO who would freak out about it, and I own my own business that wouldn't be affected by me being outed if they put it on the front page of the Chronicle. Still, it was a little disconcerting that people actually figured it out, although it took 3 who didn't like me comparing notes to figure it out. I would want someone to PM me and say hey, I saw this and that and none of my business, but looks like this is you IRL and you might want to be careful. I'd consider it a fellow monger watching out for me and appreciate it.