The best way to answer this question is to put yourself in their shoes.Kayla, I've never met you, but you just went on my list!
You are a married man with little to no love at home. You are looking for that acceptance and a genuine caring touch both verbally and physically. When you get home from a very long day at the office that provides even less love and acceptance, what is the first thing you want to greet you at your door?
Men are just little boys in a big world that constantly bombards them with stress, stress, and more stress. They all miss and long for that safe place to fall into where no demands are made and all the little things are taken care of.
Take their shoes off and don't just offer something to drink, actually have a little serving tray with some goodies on it. Cheese, chocolate, and sugar free candy are good ones (make allowances for lactose intolerance and diabetes.). You help them with everything. Take their clothes off and HANG them up (coat hanger through the belt loop will solve alot of "stuff in the pockets" problems.
Always have a gentle accepting hand touching them lovingly every chance you get. Don't separate your physical contact unless you have too.
When you are at your office, your outside life is on hold. It does NOT exist. When they ask you how you are, what they truly want to hear is, " I'm just fantastic and seeing you really does make my already great day even better." In most cases if you've done your screening right, that statement is true. Men are intelligent sensitive creatures that should not be underestimated. Yes we all agree they are simple at heart and usually the way to turn them on is to show up. However, that is simply surface and usually due to visitation of sub par ladies and starvation at home.
Make constant eye contact if possible and gently pull them into your world with your own confidence. Especially on a first visit, they will be nervous. It's your job to be 110% confident in your own skills and the world they just walked into. When I sense nervousness I always tell them... Honey if I can't take away that nervousness in 10 min, the session is on me.
A bathroom full of little sample guy things is actually pretty important (I really ought to catch up on that one.) They need to be able to freshen up afterwards.
And smile.... alot. Not just a grin but a genuine smile with your eyes.
Get a few lessons on how to do some trained body work. You would not believe how much that makes a difference. Especially in high stress jobs like Firefighters, law enforcement (different thread to cover that) CEO's. If you can get the stress held in their upper shoulder area, they are yours forever.
SNL always has very good input here, I'd love to see her reply.
Good fortune sugar, it's not hard once you get used to all the extra little things and it will serve you beyond your dreams. Originally Posted by LovingKayla