My ATF is beautiful, bright, fun, mature, grounded, always upbeat, genuinely happy to see me and very kind. We enjoy each other with or without clothing...whether at lunch, coffee or BCD. She is so far out of my league I can't believe I get to be in the same room with her never mind maintaining a friendship. She makes me want to be a better person. We share our lives and always treat each other like very, very special lovers/friends....I think about her all the time....sigh....... Originally Posted by Ed HighlightAmen.
How many times do you see the catch phrase in a review, "my new ATF"? It's almost like taking out the trash...take out the old ATF, bring in the new! Geez!
The mere definition of the term means, literally, that of your entire time in or out of this hobby, this person stands above anyone else. I don't know that you can have a checklist, or grading criteria. But when you know...you just know. And while yes, there has to be a physical attraction and connection, ATF's go beyond this to embed themselves into your mind and your heart.
For me, personally, I was constantly in search of someone to fill that void for me, however, I didn't know what, or who, I was looking for. That is, until I met her! And like I said, when you know, you just know. Well, I knew.
I thought it was a torturous chain of events delaying our first meeting for weeks. But it allowed a deep friendship and closeness to develop during that time, of which I've never heard of, much less experienced, in this hobby. When we ultimately met and were finally alone, well, we hardly left the room for 3 days. It was like meeting your long lost lover for the first time.
So, technically, this lady became my ATF before I had ever met her in person. Is this possible? Can someone you have never met become your ATF?
Absolutely.