How much information is TOO MUCH information???

It honestly sounds like that guy was probably whacking off when he was talking to you. Originally Posted by Shayla

Oh Emm GEE!!! I was thinking the same thing, lol.

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some guys in "chat" seem to just want to "talk" about it. He sounds like a classic example of it, if he is detailing things like that (cim/guys).

I would drop him like a bad habit girl, for many reasons. (unless your bored and want to sex chat lol ) Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

I'm good on the sex chat, SNL. I prefer the real deal. Virtual dicks do absolutely nothing for me, lmao!

C'mon Elle. You know that a hell no don't go. He is a BIG risk!

A few months ago, I started chatting with a potential client on YIM. He expressed a desire to see me whenever I could make it to his area, and we've kept in contact since his request. During one of our chat sessions, he clued me in to the fact that he is VERY active in the swinger lifestyle. Although I don't think swinging is my cup of tea (I can't say it isn't because I've never tried it). I had no issues with him volunteering this information, and it did NOTHING to change my opinion of him as a potential client. The issue developed the more we chatted. The more comfortable he got with me, the more he would tell. I was ok with everything until he started to brag about how he loves to swing because of all the unprotected sex he gets to have with other guy's wives. He would literally boast about guys catching his "fluids" as they seeped out of the wife. Now, as I said, to each his own. But, now I feel a certain way about seeing him. I mean, I know that everyone has their own real life habits, but how am I supposed to feel comfortable when he's bragging about something that's as sensitive as unprotected sex with multiple partners and I'm a BBBJ provider?? I think I am well justified in the second thoughts I'm having, but am I possibly overreacting? How much information is TMI?

P.S. If YOU are reading this, please do not take offense. I did NOT include a name/handle/location/any other information that would serve as an identifier. As you can see, I'm trying to see your side of things by asking for unbiased opinions.

Originally Posted by Lovelyelle_01

Ugh. At least though he cared enough to tell you, but that is just gross. I had a guy once tell me ( thankfully BEFOREHAND) I went down on him that he had ' that thing that you carry with you like luggage.' I paused and said, " What are you talking about?" and then proceeded to tell me he was just 'recovering from a bout with herpes. ' He then tried to tel me when it's not on active outbreak it can't be transmitted. I said, the hell it can't. We know it can be, active or NOT. I asked him to leave and gave him his money back. And he didn't want a CBJ either.

Most swingers though from my experience talking to them, reading articles, and having been to a couple of swingers' clubs myself, seem to take a lot of precaution in safe sex. In this day and age how can you not?

He obviously shared TMI for you because it is making you have second thoughts. And I agree that might have been his way of testing you to see if you might be open to bbfs. Originally Posted by CarolinaGent

Off topic but the girl in your avatar has the perfect ass

That's why I picked it

Off topic but the girl in your avatar has the perfect ass Originally Posted by burkalini

LMAO, you beat me to it! I was gonna ask if that was a real pic of someone he knew, because DAYUM!!!

If everyone is fucking everyone bareback in the swinging lifestyle, how come there isn't this huge outbreak of STD's in the community?

I'm just asking and trying to connect the dots. In fact...

How come girls that give BBJ's in this business aren't spreading the STD's?

To the OP, are you now going to stop giving BBJ's because you now realize the danger? Or lack of danger if you haven't gotten anything after x number of BJ's..,

Don't shoot me folks, I'm just asking questions here.

Sounds like he's working you over to eventually ask for BBFS. He's just starting the seed.... well spreading it too!

If everyone is fucking everyone bareback in the swinging lifestyle, how come there isn't this huge outbreak of STD's in the community? Originally Posted by WTF

Because they die?

To the OP, are you now going to stop giving BBJ's because you now realize the danger? Or lack of danger if you haven't gotten anything after x number of BJ's.. Originally Posted by WTF

I never said I didn't know the dangers of this profession. But, it's not smart to brag to ANYONE (be it a civie/hobby/swinging partner) about how many women let you sleep with them without protection. That's what my OP was about.

You bring up a good point.

I've been contacted by men who've from their initial email or PM to me. Have disclosed everything under the sun about themselves, even so much as to disclose the names of their adult children, where they work, sending links to who he is, who they are, so on and so forth.

I personally find that unappealing in this adult lifestyle. There ought to be some form of discretion. And when men are too forthcoming about their personal life and that of their family. I decline to see them.

If they lack respect for their own privacy. Then they'll surely not respect my privacy.

A few months ago, I started chatting with a potential client on YIM. He expressed a desire to see me whenever I could make it to his area, and we've kept in contact since his request. During one of our chat sessions, he clued me in to the fact that he is VERY active in the swinger lifestyle. Although I don't think swinging is my cup of tea (I can't say it isn't because I've never tried it). I had no issues with him volunteering this information, and it did NOTHING to change my opinion of him as a potential client. The issue developed the more we chatted. The more comfortable he got with me, the more he would tell. I was ok with everything until he started to brag about how he loves to swing because of all the unprotected sex he gets to have with other guy's wives. He would literally boast about guys catching his "fluids" as they seeped out of the wife. Now, as I said, to each his own. But, now I feel a certain way about seeing him. I mean, I know that everyone has their own real life habits, but how am I supposed to feel comfortable when he's bragging about something that's as sensitive as unprotected sex with multiple partners and I'm a BBBJ provider?? I think I am well justified in the second thoughts I'm having, but am I possibly overreacting? How much information is TMI?

P.S. If YOU are reading this, please do not take offense. I did NOT include a name/handle/location/any other information that would serve as an identifier. As you can see, I'm trying to see your side of things by asking for unbiased opinions.

Originally Posted by Lovelyelle_01

I never said I didn't know the dangers of this profession. But, it's not smart to brag to ANYONE (be it a civie/hobby/swinging partner) about how many women let you sleep with them without protection. That's what my OP was about.

Originally Posted by Lovelyelle_01

You're absolutely right, Lovelyelle. I haven't thankfully run into a guy 'bragging' about that kind of thing. If he did, I would say " Bye."