Will not providing DATY lead to a worse session?

Best answer yet.

Lucky 1 nailed it, not much else needs to be said.

I'll just add that like Lucky 1 I really don't like a lot of flavor when I'm eating down there. So I make sure to get some fingering in first and get a smell or taste from that, and if it passes I'll go down if the session's dynamics call for that. If it's gamey I won't even bring it it up to save us embarassment.

I doubt not doing daty will lead to a bad session. But as others have said, if you LIKE to eat pussy and do it well, it may lead to an even better session. At least that has been my experience. You admit that you really don't care to eat pussy so you probably would be best served by skipping going down on a girl. It's rather like the difference in getting a blowjob from a girl who absolutely loves sucking dick and
getting a bj from a girl who is just going through motions and would rather not. I can tell the difference and I'm sure so can the girls.

I love DATY but only if I can tell that the gent truly enjoys it. If you're just doing it to be nice, I'd rather you didn't.

My experience has always been that NOT doing DATY does NOT mean you will have a bad session .......


But on the other hand.....

My experience has also been that if you DO do DATY...and do it well...you will far more often than not be well rewarded for your efforts....lets face it...these girls are human beings too and if you try to be pleasing to them they will almost always respond by being more pleasing to you than they might have been otherwise....this has happened to me more times than I can count!
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So yes.....I think how you approach the subject of the providers pleasure more often than not absolutely makes a difference to what you will get back in return.

I will also say that I'm pretty damn particular about which girls I do it for....for starters...they've gotta be just as clean as I am.....and I'm always scrubbed and fresh for a girl when we get together.....any off smells....and no for me! Originally Posted by Lucky 1

Lucky has given a great answer that I wholeheartedly agree with. These providers are women and wonderful ladies who want to enjoy the experience as much as we do. (at least that is my belief). who doesn't want to enjoy their job and find a sense of personal fulfillment in it. and in this hobby giving pleasure and receiving pleasure are mutually dependent actions. So I always try to pleasure her thus increasing my pleasure with the session.

Personally I hardly do daty anymore but there are other ways to get a woman's motor purring for full on intercourse. IJS.

Speaking as an older woman, if your not comfortable providing DATY there needs to be SOMETHING to replace it. Toys...GENTLE fingering...SOMETHING! I'm almost 45 and at times experience some dryness without stimulation. I can't control it (damn it) and I find that a gent willing to take his time and provide pleasure weather that is through oral or another means is a turn on for me! . Its your dime, and everything should be done at your comfort level, including something as intimate as DATY!

Side note: Please do not try to stick a finger into the vejayjay WITHOUT doing something to lubricate a woman first! That shit hurts! Lol

Someone sounds high maintenance ...

Someone sounds high maintenance ... Originally Posted by pyramider

I guess if you consider a desire for a man to have a knowledge of the basic anatomy of a woman's body and how it works (and doesn't work!) As being high maintenance then yeah...I have no problem owning it!

~Snuggles~

It's rather like the difference in getting a blowjob from a girl who absolutely loves sucking dick and
getting a bj from a girl who is just going through motions and would rather not. I can tell the difference and I'm sure so can the girls. Originally Posted by harry

Like the analogy, makes complete sense.