A true fetish as a psychologist would term it is something without which one cannot have sex. The standard meaning of fetish now is generally something in the D&S (Dominance and Submission) or B&D (Bondage and Discipline) worlds. Check out the various sites at Kink.com for more.
Originally Posted by Advocate
In the three years I've offered fetish services, I have always found that the penis is the indicator that I'm on the right track. Up means continue, down means it's time to try a new activity.
I have at times enjoyed a few carefully placed, and then removed, clothespins myself if combined with proper oral skills. It takes a lot of practice to mix pain and pleasure in the right mix for an individual. Most people don't even know to cup their hands when giving a good spanking.
Originally Posted by Advocate
So are you saying you did not get aroused when attaching the clothespins or at least during the removal of them? Because if arousal was reached, then the fetish, whether intercourse occurs or not, has become sexual. There are no rules that dictate that intercourse or oral sex is to be excluded during a fetish session to qualify as a fetish session. I've gained many clients that would see Dominatrix' before me yet preferred my sessions because sex was not excluded. Nor is it guaranteed. Tease and Denial is one of my favorite fore-play games. Slap slap slap, tickle tickle tickle. With a delayed gratification at the end. Every man has a currency and that currency is sexual release no matter the fetish.
I think that fetishes are a great lead source to add to your menu. It helps fill your calendar, stimulate your mind and your loins, and not drain your sexual cup as fast as gfe can be. It's also an under-served market in Austin.