Curious to providers: when your ATF list you as a reference

A true ATF has gained her title and is far from a COCK BLOCK! I wish the best for all my clients! If I can't get you to your current fantasy then I want to be the one to help you get there regardless..It's all love! Have fun with your new experience and come back when you are missing your ATF experience

I would say if it was a ladies ATF, it might hurt her feelings a little. After all, providers are human. Just like any business that involves human interaction, feelings can get hurt. However, her giving a reference, remembering this is a business of fantasy & fun and not acting childish is what makes her a professional. Originally Posted by Laura Lynn

Well said miss Laura

Being asked for a reference from your atf, does not necessarily mean that you are not still his. Just because Jack Daniels is your favorite drink, doesn't mean thar you never want tequila, does it? If you drink some Vodka, that it no way means you no longer hold Jack as your favorite. You just wanted something else.

Or, and this may be the case, your ATF client is on the other side of town and needs service but simply can't get to you. Maybe it's a schedule issue. We are horn dogs, sometimes we need fucked or sucked at times you are not available.

You go to the store because you really need to get drunk. They are sold out of Jack, though! They still have SoCo.
Not your favorite, buy it'll do. Jack is still your favorite. Originally Posted by grean

I completely agree and will add, variety is the spice of life. However, the OP asked if providers get hurt feelings when her ATF uses her as a reference. I don't, but I think several ladies do. Maybe that's why they don't provide references, cock block and undercut fellow providers?? I doubt those ladies will be the ones replying to this thread. 😉

As the other ladies have said, I happily provide references, will refer ladies that I personally know and try to give input on someone when asked. I certainly never want to hold someone up from having a good time or exploring his hobby.

My feelings don't really come into play. I'm More than happy to even suggest other ladies that might be a good match. To ladies, in a reference on someone that I know well....I even make suggestions, like what he likes to drink, specifics such as he likes you to keep your shoes on during the entire visit, be sure you have Magnums, he may be "packing" but safe. Don't wear black.... HE KEEPS HIS SOCKS ON AT ALL TIMES. hahaha

I love to hear from my ATF's how their session with other provider went. (no personal details)...Somewhat of a turn on for me. Like porn in a way.

I'm more concerned about the SAFETY of my friends. ONLY TWICE did I say to a frequent client....PLEASE do your due diligence with this one. This isn't a cock blocking effort but sometimes we are privy to info that the client may not have or hasn't looked for.

As regulars on both sides, we learn personal details about each other....those secrets NEED to be safe. Guys, unless you are paying a monthly retainer, you do know we see more than one client. So WHY should we get our feelings hurt. If we/they are really an ATF, THEY will be back for a reason. Why deny them variety....their wives (in most cases) already do this.

I think some hobbyists over think what the providers think when they put a provider's name down as a reference. Early on, I know I did. I always wondered if they worried I I didn't like the time with them and wouldn't see them again. Then, after I had a list of favorites, I would use their names over again and they didn't seem to mind. In fact, several seemed to really enjoy doing it. Guess they knew since I was using them, I intended to see them again.