We all hobby for different reasons.
Some of the guys are only interested in sticking their dick in a female for the time paid for...and that's fine.
Some feel that since they're paying for it, the entire time allotted should revolve around them and them only...that's fine too.
Then you have the group who desire the entire sexual experience as the driving factor behind their seeking out the company of their chosen lady. Kissing, touching, teasing, the giving and receiving of oral, body worship, dim lights, soft music...etc.
There's more to sex than just fucking. Put into it...what you want out of it.