I think you are counting yourself out too quick, don't start to over think why your phone is or is not ringing, we all have "hot" days and we all have "cold" days, we may even have cold weeks.
I cant see a damn thing you have done that warrants your perceived self image. You are smart, thoughtful, caring, hot, your pictures are creative and playful and your Ali name is cute as fuck. I'd say (and I do say this with all due respect) the problem is how you see yourself and your self esteem.
Also please dont pick this name, you say you want something "real world" ... but there is NOTHING real world about Kenleigh Kole.