"You Will Never Be Able to Afford Me!"

Agree !

If anything, the EXTREME upper end ladies are often less "hot" and more "blendable". So many of the young generation is so busy trying to be flashy that they forget that part of discretion is the ability to be hidden in plain sight.

Most of the clientele in the higher income brackets aren't looking for someone that is going to draw TOO much attention and they don't want it to be blatantly obvious that they have a paid companion on their arm. When 50 year old Bob from Accounting has a 22 year old hot ass with a Russian accent on his arm-- its going to be more noticed than if Bob has the 32 year old attractive lady on his arm. Originally Posted by Grace Preston

IOP does go a long way ,,

The best providers are those who understand what their visitors need out of the session and use their skills, personality and other traits to see that the visitor achieves what he came for, pardon the play on words -- leaving happy, satisfied, and convinced or considering to return in the future. Looks are fine but that understanding, plus perhaps some skillful IOP, go a long, long way in this world. Originally Posted by SlowHand50

So, in a trainwreck of a threAD in a forum, far, far, far away...a lady uttered the words you "will never be able to afford me."

It really doesn't matter what kind of money someone has. I've seen a guy with a $15k bar tabs at my favorite restaurant. And I've seen the same guy at the Taco Bell drive thru. I personally would not say something like the quote above because I don't presume to know other people's finances nor their financial priorities. But a wonderful response really got me thinking about who we all view ourselves here. Not just the ladies, but the gents as well. Is there too much assumption and judgment based on rates charged and monies spent?

I read the best response have seen in a while here and it really hit home:



We aren't commodities and they aren't buyers. Perpetuating this feeds into political agendas that are threatening our freedom of expression. Originally Posted by B Three

B, I absolutely love your posts. You are one of the more intelligent and erudite members of Eccie. I truly love reading your well thought out and logical views of our lifestyle.

And this post really nails it. A statement like; "you can't afford me"; is just wrong on so many levels. And absolutely we can't know or make assumptions about any one else's financial situation! Howard Hughes wore empty Kleenex boxes for house shoes. Probably while he ate Beluga caviar with a golden spoon.

Of course you can't buy a person. You CAN pay for services rendered, be it a massage, counseling, therapy such as listening and offering advice and supplying an empathetic and sympathetic ear.
We do all of that, as well as physical therapy and much needed stress relief.

I don't understand why current laws only allow our much needed services in certain states.

I've even looked into moving to California and becoming certified as a legal sexual surrogate.

SlowHand50 is so correct that the best providers use their skills and personalities to ensure that the client leaves happy, relaxed and satisfied. That's always been my goal, and when you care about people and enjoy your work it feeds your soul, gives a sense of satisfaction and makes you happy. Good providers are caregivers. As a former RN I've always felt like I'm still practicing nursing when I take care of my clients physically, emotionally and spiritually.

And being trendy, flashy and obvious looking was certainly not my goal. Except BCD of course! I love getting all fixed up in sexy lingerie, thigh highs and heels! But accompanying a client to dinner or a function, an intelligent woman would know how to dress sexy but appropriately and still look amazing but not trashy.

I hope someone smarter than I am can come up with some kind of plan to preserve our freedoms from the current political climate.

If anything, the EXTREME upper end ladies are often less "hot" and more "blendable". So many of the young generation is so busy trying to be flashy that they forget that part of discretion is the ability to be hidden in plain sight.

Most of the clientele in the higher income brackets aren't looking for someone that is going to draw TOO much attention and they don't want it to be blatantly obvious that they have a paid companion on their arm. When 50 year old Bob from Accounting has a 22 year old hot ass with a Russian accent on his arm-- its going to be more noticed than if Bob has the 32 year old attractive lady on his arm. Originally Posted by Grace Preston

Grace always makes insightful and well thought out comments.

A smart provider of course knows how to dress to appropriately. A lady can be very attractive, sexy, and still look like she belongs on the arm of a well dressed sophisticated businessman, not like a 20 dollar street walker. Embarrassing a client who wants date for a function is never a good idea.

A "milf" type is best,IMO, and from my experience. And for those of us that are that age, are probably busier than the very young ladies. We appeal to young men that fantasize about older women and their sexual knowledge and experience they have to offer. And we appeal to clients our own age or older men, for the same reasons plus the added level of stability, non flakiness and the ability to converse on the clients level, and on a wide range of topics. I've had clients from 18 to 90. And an experienced, well known lady is often in the business because she truly enjoys it and it makes her happy and satisfied. At 40, my hormones started exploding and it's so much better now that I'm more knowledgeable and comfortable about my body, men's bodies and I get so much enjoyment out of it. I didn't when I younger, it took until I was in my late 30's or 40, to learn to listen to my body and my burgeoning hormones and to tune into my partners body. And also to have fun and experiment with new things.

Thanks to everyone contributing to this thread! Thanks GinKat for your kind words.

The blending thing is so true! And our job as caretaker and confidant is a real thing.

The person who made that comment is in the wrong business. She's confused about the words consumption and consumerism. Maybe the last guy spread her last words to the rest of her potential dates and whether or not they can "afford" her is not her problem anymore.

Strangely, i've had MORE of the 15$ a plate restaurants that made me wanna go back for meal after meal, than i EVER have had with the 65$ a plate ones...I see it similar to hobbying. Originally Posted by garhkal

I have rarely, if ever, been disappointed by a lower priced lady... The only ladies that had ever been less than I expected were in the upper price range of my budget. Perhaps raising the expectation level of performance/experience along with the price, has a ceiling.