Attention newbies and lurkers: How to "grow a pair" by Heidilynn

I am Somewhat newbie friendly and some of my favorite regulars were newbies at some point. My biggest problem is when the gents don't know how to cancel when they chicken out.

Guys, it's ok if something comes up or you have a change of heart. So, how do you deal with it? Simple! Just say something..anything, lol. A simple text, email, or phone call is fine. Just be polite and honest. It's no big deal as long as you communicate. Remember, We won't bite you unless you pay extra!!

The worst thing is to request an appointment, go back and forth with intros and screening and simply not call or show. Most of us take an hour to get ready for you. We want to make sure we are neatly groomed and look pretty and smell great for our time together. Please respect our time as you would expect your clients to in your profession.

Keep in mind, we might have had requests for another appointment. If you are requesting an appointment the same day and can't send references in a timely manner, this too, could provide a problem for us. There are lots of bad eggs (hobbyists) who lie about having a p411 account or references. Send this info right away to prove you are legit, otherwise we might take you for a bullshitter. Trust me there are plenty of them out there.
I hope you find this information to be helpful. Originally Posted by heidilynnla

Can I make out with you for this?! Jk. Unless...

If guys actually paid attention to my site, I'd put this on there. However, I will comment on it. - to "bump" it up. This is worth the read for some.

Thanks, girl!

I totally agree with this, I know when I was an provider, guys that "chickened out" or just didn't show up really bugged me. providers should be treated with the same respect as anyone that you are making an appointment with, they are running a business the same as anyone else. Originally Posted by BellaIsabella

+1 totally agreed. Would they handle their doctors appts that way or would they have their clients treat them like that?

is that some kind of germ killing spray?

i respect a guy that will call and cancel even tough i dont like it and will give them another chance. but ncns or a email days later is annaceptable Originally Posted by adrianax2x

alot of no call no shows lately i am waiting on one right now i think! i feel we shouldnt get scourned for a ncns if the guys do it too!

alot of no call no shows lately i am waiting on one right now i think! i feel we shouldnt get scourned for a ncns if the guys do it too! Originally Posted by seductivesarah

This is really a personal choice. I've never NCNS'd a lady, and I don't see ladies who have done so even once. Just because some guys engage in that conduct, you can't say all guys do. But I don't do it, and I don't allow it.

Has it happened to me? Yes. Have I ever done it? No.

This isn't a one-sided topic, obviously. There should be mutual respect. How about some good old...plain and simple..manners.

+1 totally agreed. Would they handle their doctors appts that way or would they have their clients treat them like that? Originally Posted by ninasastri

I have to believe it happens in the medical profession quite a bit, particularly when it is an appt. scheduled 6 months out. My Dentist's office called or emailed 6 times trying to confirm my recent appt.

alot of no call no shows lately i am waiting on one right now i think! i feel we shouldnt get scourned for a ncns if the guys do it too! Originally Posted by seductivesarah

Assuming you meant 'scorned' - but it is a two way street and a guy that has NC/NS'ed shouldn't expect a second chance and neither should a gal that does it.

...it is a two way street and a guy that has NC/NS'ed shouldn't expect a second chance and neither should a gal that does it. Originally Posted by atlcomedy

+1 And this is my policy.

I use Black list for the real loosers.

http://www.nationalblacklist.com/Thanks DallasRain will check that site out. In genral it is just a plain , pain in the ass. Today I had an appt , had it booked for a week , he called woke me up told him I would call back , I did then he said ok , then called back said he wasn't going to make it. I list them in my cell phone NS. Then if try dare call me again I can remember to add NS fee. I was really planning on this and now my insurance is going to be cancelled at 12 am. Guys just don't understand we have bills , we do were just like everyone else.

I have been very lucky and have not had any issues with this.

Counting my lucky stars.....1...2...3...4...5... Originally Posted by Tiffany Cums

Probably because no guy in his right mind would ever want to miss you

The only time I ever had to cancel I made sure by email & phone call that she knew about it and this was several days in advance.

I think thats a occurance in any field , not just in the hobby. Rudeness is everywhere.

This just happened to me the other night with a newbie. He was totally respectful, had no issue being screened and I even spoke to him on the phone. It was supposed to be an outcall for the next evening and I asked him to email me to confirm his hotel a couple of hours prior to the appointment...nothing. I then left him a voice mail asking if we were still on for that time...crickets. I sent him one more email letting him know that we had confirmed the evening before and if he had wanted to change his mind that is fine but just send a courtesy email a few hours prior. Zip Zero Nada! It's been almost a year since this has happened to me and the last time was a board member. I would never treat people this way but what can one do?

I think it is common courtesy for both parties to at least inform the other when cancelling.

This isn't a one-sided topic, obviously. There should be mutual respect. How about some good old...plain and simple..manners. Originally Posted by heidilynnla

this.

It's been almost a year since this has happened to me and the last time was a board member. I would never treat people this way but what can one do? Originally Posted by Paven

The first time it happened to me, the lady (a Board Member) hung me out to dry in the lobby of an upscale hotel. I called for about 20 minutes getting only VM, and left when it was obvious hotel security was wondering why I was loitering. I don't do incalls any more as a result of this experience. (On a side note, the trip itself cost me about $75.)

This is not a one-way street.