what if.....and what will you guys do???

If it is a safety issue, leave. If you aren't as impressed with her as you were in the first place, pay, stay and see how it goes. You'd be surprised how hot a lady can appear to you once you get to know her a little and go beyond the surface. Originally Posted by OldGrump

I agree. One lady I met was not at all what I expected, her personality was a bit "out there" and she wasn't as firm as her pics looked. But it wasn't a case of false advertising so much as me having worked up a different image in my head of how I thought she'd look and act. But I felt it had gone too far by then to back out. Here's the difference- whereas OP told himself it was going to go bad, I told myself she may not be who I thought, but I'm going to have fun anyway. And boy did I, it was an amazing session!

There are circumstances where I would walk.

• If the incall is hot or smelly or smoky or trashed I give her a $100 and leave.
• If it's clearly a case of "bait and switch" and the girl answering the door is not appealing to me I give her a $100 and leave.
• If at anytime when approaching the incall I feel unsafe I text/call her and cancel. The provider owes it to us clients to select an incall in a safe location.

I don't hobby that often and try to do a lot of research on the provider before making an appointment. But strange and sometimes dangerous things can arise. I don't want to waste their time, but I also want a session that is safe and makes me feel comfortable.

Stay away from Back Page!! I have never gone wrong with a well reviewed provider
on ECCIE.

I agree. One lady I met was not at all what I expected, her personality was a bit "out there" and she wasn't as firm as her pics looked. But it wasn't a case of false advertising so much as me having worked up a different image in my head of how I thought she'd look and act. But I felt it had gone too far by then to back out. Here's the difference- whereas OP told himself it was going to go bad, I told myself she may not be who I thought, but I'm going to have fun anyway. And boy did I, it was an amazing session! Originally Posted by RideFreeInTexas

I really liked reading this response. And the reason why it makes such good sense is that I feel, from reading the OP's topic and responses, he's having either buyer's remorse or he's just getting those last minute jitters (which is completely normal especially for less experienced lovers).

I cannot tell you how many times that I've opened the door to a client and even knowing how he's supposed to look, it's surprising to me. And I'm positive the opposite has happened.

Most of the time, it works out just fine. Often, even better than fine.

Other than the obvious reasons to leave an appointment before it even starts, and I completely understand if a man leaves because of being misled, etc., how in the world can you tell if you're going to enjoy the physical pleasures of a woman when you haven't even touched her yet?

When you start to like someone, they become better looking to you. If you do not like someone, it doesn't matter how attractive they are. So much of "this" is chemistry and it's amazing who you'll find chemistry with.

I used to have the above statement on my website for years because I used to get calls that went something like this, "I'm a good looking guy. You'll like having sex with me. Can I get a discount?"

I see incredibly attractive men, and much younger men (and I complain about that constantly!), all of the time. It's almost shocking how attractive my client base really is.

But that's the rub. Often, the more unattractive men are the really good lovers. Looks are so secondary for women (I know!) because the ones that are experienced, know that it's impossible to tell the sexual acumen of a person by just looking at them.

Disclaimer: There have been times, when I've opened the door to let someone in, that I've just KNOWN that our time together was going to be delicious. It doesn't happen all of the time but sometimes, it does happen. So for what it's worth, my above statement isn't quite on the mark all of the time!

I'd follow the advice of the ones who seem to be experienced with seeing ladies of this realm. Unless the sex worker maliciously has given you false information, or you're feeling unsafe, then why don't you don't give it a try with the one that you're with?

I cannot speak for everyone, but the ladies that I've personally associated with have always wanted to completely please their partners. We have a bit of a knack for doing so, too!

Just my morning thoughts on it. Uncaffeinated thoughts, by the way.

Take care,
Elisabeth

Elisabeth once again captures the true spirit of the hobby. Hobbyists- read her comments again and insert yourself as "I". I have and man- I agree. Even with the opposite of her point, the less than Bo Derek 10 providers are really the better lovers, if you want the passion and attentiveness that a lover offers. That said, I am not a hobbyist for the pop but for as great a sensual and sexual experience that we as partners can generate for each other. I am enormously lucky- much higher wins than losses.

First of all I probably need to see Whispers to bring her overly good looking men rate down. haha
I just had the worst hobby experience. The problem was similar to the OP but instead of looks the service DFK was not there right of the gate listed on 411 . I packed and left. there was drama

Thanks for you guys's response...some people asked me why do I want to leave the session at the first place...to be honest with you guys...some times is not that pics are misleading or the issue with the Incall...it's just simply the feeling that the provider presents...for example, on my last review...she looks alike the pics she sent to me before I went to her, but the moment when she opens the door, the feeling she gives me makes me know right away the session is already fucked up...I can't exactly explain the feeling to you guys..it's just the feeling that you know in your mind...like no matter how hard you prepared for the exam...and you think u are ready for it...but the the moment the exam sheet is on your table and when you see the questions on it...u know u can't score high enough for that exam...I hope you guys can understand what I trying to say here, because honestly, I really can't explain why I want to leave...but I just want to

Thanks for you guys's response...some people asked me why do I want to leave the session at the first place...to be hoguys...some times is not that pics are misleading or the issue with the Incall...it's just simply the feeling that the provider presents...for example, on my last review...she looks alike the pics she sent to me before I went to her, but the moment when she opens the door, the feeling she gives me makes me know right away the session is already fucked up...I can't exactly explain the feeling to you guys..it's just the feeling that you know in your mind...like no matter how hard you prepared for the exam...and you think u are ready for it...but the the moment the exam sheet is on your table and when you see the questions on it...u know u can't score high enough for that exam...I hope you guys can understand what I trying to say here, because honestly, I really can't explain why I want to leave...but I just want to Originally Posted by ivan3923

Ivan,really having a hard time reading between the lines here my friend. If you cannot articulate the why you want to leave issue....I think you may need some counseling. No one on eccie can solve that. Good Luck amigo.

There are circumstances where I would walk.

• If the incall is hot or smelly or smoky or trashed I give her a $100 and leave.
• If it's clearly a case of "bait and switch" and the girl answering the door is not appealing to me I give her a $100 and leave.
• If at anytime when approaching the incall I feel unsafe I text/call her and cancel. The provider owes it to us clients to select an incall in a safe location.

I don't hobby that often and try to do a lot of research on the provider before making an appointment. But strange and sometimes dangerous things can arise. I don't want to waste their time, but I also want a session that is safe and makes me feel comfortable. Originally Posted by Wheretonow

You would actually pay a provider $100 that had baited and switched you? She could make a good living without doing anything but answering the door and collecting her $100 scam fees.

To me this is just rewarding unethical practice. I really don't understand the logic that would compel you to do that. Fortunately, after a couple of bait and switch alerts from other hobbyists, I don't think she would be very successful in continuing this practice.

There are circumstances where I would walk.

• If the incall is hot or smelly or smoky or trashed I give her a $100 and leave.
• If it's clearly a case of "bait and switch" and the girl answering the door is not appealing to me I give her a $100 and leave.
• If at anytime when approaching the incall I feel unsafe I text/call her and cancel. The provider owes it to us clients to select an incall in a safe location.

Originally Posted by Wheretonow

How do you arrange to give them their Benjamen in your third example?


Seriously.

Ivan,really having a hard time reading between the lines here my friend. If you cannot articulate the why you want to leave issue....I think you may need some counseling. No one on eccie can solve that. Good Luck amigo. Originally Posted by ftango4

+1 i think the problem sounds like it is coming from within yourself and it is not fair to give a bunch of no reviews because of it.

It does not matter why you changed your mind. Or when. There is no reason to continue if your not into it. No reason to go ahead and hope for the best. Just walk away. Be.polite, Treat her fairly reguarding the fee and leave. again, if she did nothing wrong per say, its still ok to leave. Sometimes the vibe is just not there.

This is part.of why I want to meet a provider socially before ever scheduling bcd.