bigoffshoredaddy...so your wife is aware of you doing this. just curious to see how the conversation came up bc I will be in your boat soon with the menopause Originally Posted by Pacifico ClaraCorrect. My wife and I have been the lifestyle for almost 15 years now. It was around that time I was put on HRT... needless to say, but it almost made me 17 again. As such, she couldn't keep up with me wanting sex more than I did. Combined with my travel schedule, either I wasn't there and she had needs, I was traveling and had needs, or I would wear her out when I was home. When I was in the military, I had a don't ask, don't tell hall pass. But when I came home, it was different because mamma could keep up.
We discussed deep feelings and our relationship was strong enough to try letting each other do our own thing; it worked. And it turned into a win win for the both of us. When she became peri-menopausal, she and I definitely had to recalibrate where she's concerned. So it made hobbying more of an option for me. Beyond that, with her being on HRT, the field evened out better.
We've known each other for almost 50 years, been together for almost 40, and married for 36. YMMV, but if your relationship is strong enough, it's a subject worth talking with your spouse over.