I would do you for free!

I've never had a free session but I'm not 20.
I have had extra time, some stuff that was not on the menu.
A second it third bj.
Some fun shower time, and one of my favorites.
Me giving her a body massage.
I don't expect anything for free.
But I love the extras.

Well the problem is that this is a business and eventually he would expect or she would expect services for free all the time Originally Posted by Joeblow1983

Yep. I'd say that if she goes down this road, she should be prepared to not charge him from here on out.

It all starts with trust and it may or may not work out.

To add to UC and cmore197474 comment of FWB. Hell, I've had one night hookup turn into a regulars hookup and we didn't become friends until after we were both in relationships. So, AWB (acquaintances with benefits)?

I've never had a free session but I'm not 20.
I have had extra time, some stuff that was not on the menu.
A second it third bj.
Some fun shower time, and one of my favorites.
Me giving her a body massage.
I don't expect anything for free.
But I love the extras. Originally Posted by Joeblow1983

It’s not about expecting anything for free it’s about the provider wanting you for free. Like if I’m just at home and don’t have a date in the real world and I wish I could just contact certain clients and ask if they’d come over no charge. I don’t mean go off and get married. But I suppose if he was single something might come of that.There are guys hear that I’d rather Netflix and chill with Lynn most of the guys I meet on dating websites.

I think marital status becomes an issue here.... and a single guy probably wouldn't want to share a girl they have feelings for and would want you to change what you do .. so not likely to work Originally Posted by cmore197474

Again I’m not talking about a committed relationship. I just mean I get lonely and I think of some of the guys I’ve been with and I wish I could just message them and ask them if they could come over and hang out with no donation required. Now if there was a single guy maybe things would be different I would quit the hobby or he will be OK with it or he would join in I don’t know I’m just throwing out my feelings as usual

cmore,
What about a fwb situation?
Those have no rules.

Suzanna,
There's nothing weird about a couple deciding to go bcd. Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter

That’s a good point I mean FWB situations can be great if both of you are on the same page with the same understanding of what’s OK and what’s not.

it happens! i say if thats what u r wanting, why not? Originally Posted by trishste

Why not? Well for one I could lose him as a client if he thought I had desires for him. Or the news could get out somehow around here and then peoples feelings would be hurt. Or he could be married and I could develop feelings for him and that would be a mess. It’s just seems complicated. And what if I asked him and he said no ? I would be pretty sad

Well.. what is she really saying here. She said a relationship with feelings. Does that mean commitments... that can go sour.... and have consequences..or is she saying she is just physically attracted to them.
...UC....fwb is a different thing... usually you're friends before the "benefits" start... and you never paid for the benefits.. i think in this situation the benefit should be a greatly reduced price. Free would send red flags to me. Originally Posted by cmore197474

You raise a lot of good points and it would take me about three pages worth of writing out exactly what I’m trying to convey

I saw a UTR girl a few times who had been introduced by another hobbyist. One day around 10:00pm she texted me and said she was in the area and could she come by? She came over and sat on my couch and we chatted for about half an hour and then she excused herself and left. The next day she texted and asked why we didn't have sex the night before. I said I didn't have any cash right then and wasn't prepared for a date and she said that it would have been just for fun. LOL, my first booty call and I didn't even know it.

A few days later I got a call again at about 10:00pm from her. She was at a friend's house and the friend was curious about the hobby and wanted some advice. Could I come over? I wasn't going to be stupid a second time, so I was there as soon as I could. When I arrived, the friend said hello, but then excused herself to go to bed, leaving us alone. We went out to the pool and had a great time in the moonlight. I ended up seeing her quite a few times after that without any further payment -- until she started dating someone and decided she didn't need a FWB.

Well in the end it’s about being happy and if you would like someone to come see you does it matter how you met. No one can really say it is a good or bad thing because each situation is different and it is impossible for us to judge the personalities involved. Good luck.

Sounds like the plot to a happy movie

I'm amused quoting myself

Classic Big Deal,
Takes forever to say go for it.

Amusingly shorter comment than BigDeals

CryptKicker is saying same as I, bcd is bcd.

Riley mentions she did.
So I'll mention I do. First met mine well over two decades ago. Both of us are divorced now, so.... But she's out of state in a diff time zone, so we do vacations.

The point we all are making is:
Go for it. Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter

You are totally right about that. I guess I was just thinking out loud and wondered if anyone had ever been in this type of situation and it sounds like there have been quite a few. When I very first started I am not a great guy and we became friends with benefits. It was great until he decided to join the military and move to another state. But it was fun while it lasted. I guess I just have a pretty big fear of rejection after multiple situations not just in love but and family and friendships as well. Which is probably why I’m still single LOLHeartbreak is one of the worst pain there is.

Thanks for listening and for being kind. Sometimes I wanna post things but I’m too scared of being attacked. So I appreciate nobody making me feel bad about how I feel. And you guys all raised some good points and give me lots to think about

Well in the end it’s about being happy and if you would like someone to come see you does it matter how you met. No one can really say it is a good or bad thing because each situation is different and it is impossible for us to judge the personalities involved. Good luck. Originally Posted by Gandolf64

Why not? Well for one I could lose him as a client if he thought I had desires for him. Or the news could get out somehow around here and then peoples feelings would be hurt. Or he could be married and I could develop feelings for him and that would be a mess. It’s just seems complicated. And what if I asked him and he said no ? I would be pretty sad Originally Posted by SweetSuzanna

Just explain yourself to the person like you did to us. You don't know if you don't try. It will be scary cause you are entering into unknown territory. Make all the rules together so everyone knows what's up and are OK with it. Feelings always come involved when you head this direction. It's only you that can make the decision. There is a ton of good advice in this thread, people a lot smarter than me. All I can say is just try.
Good Luck Sweetie

Just explain yourself to the person like you did to us. You don't know if you don't try. It will be scary cause you are entering into unknown territory. Make all the rules together so everyone knows what's up and are OK with it. Feelings always come involved when you head this direction. It's only you that can make the decision. There is a ton of good advice in this thread, people a lot smarter than me. All I can say is just try.
Good Luck Sweetie Originally Posted by Wolfhound

Thanks babe. It’s a combination of fear of rejection, making my life even more complicated, if he is married I would be scared I could start liking him more and it would suck cuz I could never even date him. I don’t really know my reasons for not just telling him /them really that’s not just one person, that I don’t need to know what I would say cause I don’t understand my own feelings sometimes. I don’t want to make something worse. I don’t know I probably shouldn’t of even brought it up. But thanks for your advice

After many years of living, I have found it is best to live in the moment and seize that moment. I haven't found a crystal ball yet that will tell me what tomorrow or next week will bring. Be honest and express your feelings to him or anyone. Do you want to look back later and wonder "what if?" I think we all fear rejection and sometimes don't say or do what our hearts feel. As was once said... " it is better to have loved and lost then to never have loved at all." Trust in your heart and just talk honestly with the person of your affections. It's not fun to be alone, we as humans need interaction and sharing with each other, doesn't always involve intimate contact but just watching a movie or having a deep conversation or talking about dreams and goals. We often forget about Sunday Socials, porch swings and buggy rides. Have a wonderful holiday!