Cant finish. Whats wrong with me.

Duthgar1976's Avatar
i have this similar problem. the fastest i have been able to cum was an hour long bbbj from a pro. i take viagra full strength but when i got to fs mode and put the comdom on it goes limp inside her. so i jsut do the bbbj long sessions cause it can take a long time for me to cum.
And you probably know this.....but don't rub one out before appt.
And you probably know this.....but don't rub one out before appt. Originally Posted by Sophia Banks
Is it OK to have an appointment before the appointment?
I think I saw maybe 30 providers before I "gave myself permission " to come in a providers mouth. I studied reviews and had categorized men into those that HAD to cim, and those that cip. Just kind of figured I was the latter. ...now I've done it 5-6 times with a glorious swallow as recently as last night and I think it was my mind saying no to cim so I could FUCK. Like I would somehow be cheating myself if I cim when the urge arose..fuck that shit! I do marvel at some of these guys seeming ability to pull out while fucking, get the condom off and get it in her mouth. When I'm hilt deep in vagina and feel the tingle, it's too late.

Relax don't do it - Frankie goes to Hollywood: http://youtu.be/Q3_2entulkw

Should be...Relax just DO IT!
... I can sit back let myself be worked on and enjoy a good ol' deep throat... But i can release. Think its all in my head. Just once id like to expload this way.
I need to get outa my head!!! Originally Posted by addicted2U
Please. You just need to give my jaws a rest and let me take you for a ride.

I'll get you there.

Or, at least, I'll get myself there!
Sometimes it is the person. Sometimes it is the technique. Relax and let you mind go free :-) Originally Posted by Ally Vixen

Early thirties is a little young to be suffering from E.D. Without knowing you personally, the only advice that I can give is; If you're overweight, lose the extra LB's and if you have a diet that's heavy with GMO's, especially GMO soy, try to go as organic as possible and avoid anything that has soy in it, soy reeks havoc on a man's testosterone levels as does having excess body (belly) fat.

Also, get your vitamin levels checked. Vitamins, especially vitamin D, is important for a man to have optimal health. Drink water, eat your green vegetables, and don't stress too much (Which is easier said than done in a city like Dallas). Good luck!
blinkq45's Avatar
That's unusual for a thirty year old dude! Clear your mind and focus on the hot babe you're with at the moment! I'm scaring 50 and I get off better and faster with a hot bbbj than I do with a cover! There's just something about a beautiful babe making zippy happy with a hot bbbj!!
Originally Posted by blinkq45
Oh my goodness! Who is that lovely woman?
yohimbebrother's Avatar
I have the same issue also of not finishing the deed sometimes. with some ladies I've seen her on eccie, either they tap out or take it as a challenge to make sure that I do ejaculate and leave happy. there's been a few times where I just clean up and leave with a woody. either way I'm happy.

the important thing is to relax and have fun....

so needless to say BnG session don't work for me......
Early thirties is a little young to be suffering from E.D. Without knowing you personally, the only advice that I can give is; If you're overweight, lose the extra LB's and if you have a diet that's heavy with GMO's, especially GMO soy, try to go as organic as possible and avoid anything that has soy in it, soy reeks havoc on a man's testosterone levels as does having excess body (belly) fat.

Also, get your vitamin levels checked. Vitamins, especially vitamin D, is important for a man to have optimal health. Drink water, eat your green vegetables, and don't stress too much (Which is easier said than done in a city like Dallas). Good luck! Originally Posted by VerySoon
I don't think the inability to climax is necessarily indicative of ED though I am no medical professional. I am usually erect during the entire experience. Although, I am a fat ass so you may have something there.

Yo - I never leave with a woody unless I am extremely upset or frustrated about something. I always use it as an opportunity to cum somewhere fun! I really think it's just a physiological thing. Some people can cross their eyes and some can't. Some guys can climax from BJ's and/or HJ's some can't. Just chalk it up to life and be sure to have fun!
ElisabethWhispers's Avatar
Sometimes, a man will masturbate a lot. And they do it very hard and fast and as a result, a mouth isn't strong enough to give the lover the appropriate friction needed to go over the edge.

Another poster was making a joke about it above. I tend to refer to it as male dish pan hands.

I had a client several years back that actually had to go to some therapist because he had gotten to the point that the ONLY way that he could climax was to jack himself off while having intercourse (also, he was humongous, which was a negative issue in itself).

I've made the suggestion that a man either stop touching himself for awhile, or start to pay attention and change up his technique. Try to give yourself an orgasm while doing something, anything, differently.

And then keep varying it up.

Most people get into a certain pattern of touching themselves and sometimes, it translates into having problems ejaculating any other fashion. Especially if you haven't had a regular partner, or regular sex, in awhile.

Again, just a guess. Or it's nerves.

There are a lot of men who are just used to having an orgasm through intercourse and that is what does it for them.

The mouth can be too threatening, with the teeth and all, for some men to be that vulnerable to a stranger. Just my thoughts on this situation.

Us ladies do see this sometimes. So it's normal enough.

Good luck. Frankly, I think that it's kindof cute that you started a topic about this issue. Now, you're going to have all of these sex workers wanting to help you out with your situation.

They'll want bragging rights, too, I'm sure!

Men DO seem to like orgasming while thrusting into the mouth of a female (insert joke here).

Best,
Elisabeth
Randall Creed's Avatar
Maybe you're clinching your ass muscles too long, subconsciously resisting the urge to 'let go' and cum.

Lack of sensitivity may be coming from using TOO MUCH 'enhancers'. Sure, they get you hard, but they [could] also make you go numb. A sign of this is that that your hard-ons are too 'hard'. Being too stiff usually doesn't feel too good.
OldGrump's Avatar
I'm much older than you so my mindset is different, yet we have the same problem. I've come to accept what happens and enjoy the touching. The empty feeling is not as bad as it would have been 20 or 30 years ago.

Out of my last 30 or so attempts, I have "finished" 3 times. On 2 of the occasions, we had a simultaneous climax. Hearing the lady build excitement and the internal tightening of her grip brought me to a finish too. That isn't something that can be faked as the timing must be perfect (but at this point, I'll take fake with timing).

I will not give up the search. Well, not voluntarily.