Direction or Control

Question:
Do providers like to be forced controlled by the client, or take easy direction.
What would a provider do if a client grabbed her head while she was giving a BJ? Originally Posted by Stiffy008

violence. A mass of undiluted, temper enraged, burning coil of violence.

Joking aside. I do not believe this is not a good idea to test if your treasure is planted between the jaw. Jaw muscles can produce 200 pounds of pressure to close the mouth. I imagine whatever may lay in this danger zone could suffer the effects of a started or agitated provider.

If you desire a more aggressive or BDSM oriented date It is strongly recommended you discuss in advance these options (without being crude of course) with your intended date for the evening.

What you should be asking is why do some guys NOT grab your head while you're giving a BJ. That's because we're trying extra extra extra hard not to grab your head. Isn't that nice of us? Now you know. Originally Posted by Longermonger

This.

I will occasionally reach up and run my fingers lightly through the hair, but the temptation to grab with both hands and steer is almost overwhelming. Better to keep my hands off the head, play with tits, ass, whatever else is in reach.

Remember the MAN show? This question was answered in the Q&A session.

Q. Why do men put their hands on the woman's head when receiving fellatio?
A. To keep from clapping

Personally, I love having a man run his hands through my hair or holding my hair back or to the side so he can watch me giving him head.

I do not suggest forcing her head on your cock unless you've talked about beforehand and even then, there should be a safe word because some guys don't know when to stop.

I do think that some ladies are afraid of upsetting the apple cart when it comes to their clients. They don't speak up enough. I have no problem telling a guy when something isn't kosher with me.

Personally, I love having a man run his hands through my hair or holding my hair back or to the side so he can watch me giving him head.

I do not suggest forcing her head on your cock unless you've talked about beforehand and even then, there should be a safe word because some guys don't know when to stop.

I do think that some ladies are afraid of upsetting the apple cart when it comes to their clients. They don't speak up enough. I have no problem telling a guy when something isn't kosher with me. Originally Posted by MsElena

I agree. Works both ways too. The hobbyist can ask in a respectful way, or can see from research whether a provider allows certain acts/behaviors. I have seen ladies that advertise for submissive roleplay. They've taught ME, about the fetish, not me forcing myself on them.

It goes both ways meaning the hobbyist can speak up, so should the provider. If you are receiving oral and you think "I wonder if she'd like it if I pushed down on her head"? A. You should have figured that out before you saw her, and B. Ask before you try it.

Wasn't the old saying "Turn loose of my ears I know my business"

What's disappointing is hearing story's about providers being ruffed up or abused by a client. I don't know if this is the cause of a lot of new providers quitting. I have read some clients don't like or care for CBJ, and some don't care either way. But a new provider should never be forced to do anything, even if the client wants to see what they can get away with. Like want was stated above, some providers are scared to say anything about what happened with a client. Which in turn makes these providers look for management if they want to stay in this business.

Now let's be clear; there's a huge difference between firmly grabbing her head and force-feeding her your dick until she gags and gently placing your hand on her cheek so you can feel her soft warm face and her silky hair.

What you should be asking is why do some guys NOT grab your head while you're giving a BJ. That's because we're trying extra extra extra hard not to grab your head. Isn't that nice of us? Now you know.[/QUOTE]

Now I know...thank you.

If you want to get a special guy's attention, grab his hand and put it on your head. See how he reacts. Originally Posted by Longermonger

I'm gonna have to try that...

Gentle touches...I like those.

Ii think there are times when the provider is more or less "in control" and times when the client is more or less in control. When the provider initiates sensual contact, it usually ends up at some point with my dick in her mouth. I think most providers take a certain amount of pride in their oral talents, so I just pretty much let them show me their game. It's not so much a matter of evaluating their talent as determining our "click" factor. Their are few things in life better than looking down and seeing a pretty feminine face looking back up at you that (at least apparently) are enjoying what they are doing. It would be ill-mannered and rude to just take the process over when the provider is involved in giving me pleasure in a manner with which I have absolutely NO experience. I've always thought the most fun is when both parties are enjoying what they are doing. It seems a reasonable assumption that if someone is being forced to do something, they aren't enjoying it so much and that sort of takes the fun out of it for me. As I said there are other times during our time together when I'M in control, but that doesn't mean I'm FORCING anything to occur. Of course this is all subject to any understanding to the contrary, but I know I don't want to be forced to do anything so I would give the provider that same consideration.

Heck i would worry if i forced down or held her head while my sausage was in her mouth she might bite it off lol

Stupid phone, double post