White Lies

Just for the record, i would like to state that PJ and RK are 2 of the most intelligent human beings i have ever encountered anywhere. Honest! Originally Posted by Doove

I'm glad to hear that. Your opinions are so very important to me.

I'm glad to hear that. Your opinions are so very important to me. Originally Posted by pjorourke

Shit, PJ, you don't give a damn about anyone's opinions, much less Doove.

I've never told a lady she's been a lousy f*ck. OTOH, I've never always been fully satisfied. If that's a white lie, I'll live with it. If that's a gray lie, I'll live with it. If that's a cruel lie...sorry, I'll live with that one, too.

There's a big difference between telling a white lie to protect someone's feelings, and abondoning being a gentleman in order to be cruelly blunt. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

me too.....

White lies are fine.
Originally Posted by atlcomedy

Disagree.

Respectfully.

Adamantly, but respectfully.

Shit, PJ, you don't give a damn about anyone's opinions, much less Doove. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Well duh!!!

a) You missed the sarcasm smiley
b) This is a thread on white lies. My comment was just as sincere as his was.

I hate having to explain jokes to the feeble minded.

Shit, PJ, you don't give a damn about anyone's opinions, much less Doove. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005

Well duh!!!

a) You missed the sarcasm smiley
b) This is a thread on white lies. My comment was just as sincere as his was.

I hate having to explain jokes to the feeble minded. Originally Posted by pjorourke

CT2005...my man...at this point I can only infer that you actually enjoy this type of treatment as you walk right into it so often.

Whatever floats your boat, 'bro.....

Well duh!!!

a) You missed the sarcasm smiley
b) This is a thread on white lies. My comment was just as sincere as his was.

I hate having to explain jokes to the feeble minded. Originally Posted by pjorourke

I suspect JB appreciates you making that effort to explain, otherwise Tudor would be hitting the "Report Inappropriate Post" button about 25 times a day instead of his current 10.:shak ehead:

I suspect JB appreciates you making that effort to explain, otherwise Tudor would be hitting the "Report Inappropriate Post" button about 25 times a day instead of his current 10.:shak ehead: Originally Posted by atlcomedy

Damn, atl, who's breaking the rules by feeding you PM info???

What the hell did I lie about??!! Originally Posted by TexTushHog

I thought you said you were a lawyer. Originally Posted by pjorourke

LOL

How white is the lie? I am out right lying to my wife about see other women (paid or not).

I am curious when a woman has posted that she wants a honest man. But then will sleep with me knowing full well I am screwing around behind my wife's back. I find it just curious that's all. I guess she can deal with the transgression when the money/gift is placed on a purse or table. Probably what makes the world go 'round.

I can agree that lying to a spouse is WAY more than a white lie to avoid a social engagement (BTDT).

LOL

How white is the lie? I am out right lying to my wife about see other women (paid or not). Originally Posted by SR Only

Yeah, I think PJ covered that in his original post "We probably all ... acknowledge that outright lying is not something any of us aspire to (yes, even in this world)."

White lies...hmmmmmm....

Expose or protect?
Using the old "does my arse look fat in this....?" example...
If the reasonable risk of protecting them with a white lie is higher than exposing them to humiliation..go for it. If it's the reverse, do not proceed.


C

Using the old "does my arse look fat in this....?"

C Originally Posted by Camille

Talk about a no win. Head for ze hills. Run away, run away!


Or another:
The check is in the mail.

Disagree.

Respectfully.

Adamantly, but respectfully. Originally Posted by FLWrite

Expound , please.

Expound , please. Originally Posted by WTF

I will try although I have just a moment. I believe we all agree that lies are inappropriate. Lies, by definition, are an attempt to deceive. White lies, as being defined here, are an attempt to deceive for a greater good.

Succinctly, that lies are bad must come from some authority. I'll not argue the origins right now. Just let the point stand: some authority greater than me gets to say what is "good" and what is "bad." If I begin to interject subjectivity into the process, saying that I respect the authority but I indeed have the authority to determine what is a "shade of good" then I am assuming I am also an authority on the subject of what is good and what is bad. I do not relish that role.

I believe it is in the heart of us all to use the "white lie" to protect others. But I believe diplomacy to be the art of avoiding the lie while STILL being able to protect the other. Just because I lack diplomacy skills to accomplish my task does not give me license to resort to the use of tools which are "bad."

Do I lie at times? Guilty. Do I excuse certain lies as being acceptable because of their rank and grade? I do not. All of my lies are lies.

I believe it is in the heart of us all to use the "white lie" to protect others. But I believe diplomacy to be the art of avoiding the lie while STILL being able to protect the other. Just because I lack diplomacy skills to accomplish my task does not give me license to resort to the use of tools which are "bad."

. Originally Posted by FLWrite

I won't argue the origin either but can we for arguments sake state that evolution has the final say? ( at least in this world)

So if white lies in essence is nothing more than a form of rhetoric , isn't it then a battle between lies and diplomacy? People not blessed with the art of diplomacy are then faced with a dilemma and from what I have read the really good liars are winning!






"MSNBC is reporting that a Columbia Business School study shows those who hold power over others make better liars. According to one of the study's coauthors, 'It just doesn't hurt them as much to do it.' For the average liar, she said, the act of lying elicits negative emotions, physiological stress and the fear of getting caught in a lie. As a result, she added, liars will often send out cues that they are lying by doing things like fidgeting in a chair or changing the rate of their speech. But for the powerful, the impact is very different: 'Power, it seems, enhances the same emotional, cognitive, and physiological systems that lie-telling depletes. People with power enjoy positive emotions, increases in cognitive function, and physiological resilience such as lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol. Thus, holding power over others might make it easier for people to tell lies.'"

Do I lie at times? Guilty. Do I excuse certain lies as being acceptable because of their rank and grade? I do not. All of my lies are lies. Originally Posted by FLWrite

I agree, there are no shades, only lies.