Ok, I gotta share my two cents here.
Hugh - to respond to your point about asking questions over the phone, I'm going to be blunt. Any woman who answers explicit questions is clueless and begging to be arrested at some point. Further, it makes you sound like LE. For my part, even if you aren't LE, I still don't want to see a man who asks those questions. Eventually you are going to talk yourself right into a pair of handcuffs, and I don't want you having already seen me when that happens. That is what reviews are supposed to be for - to answer those questions before you contact a lady, and save you from having to incriminate yourself or her.
Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh
Stacy, no problem, blunt is fine ... unless trying to cut steak! I agree with what you said above. Whenever I've seen you over the years, for instance, it was just a simple phone call. That's the way it should be if everything were perfect in this area of life. However, I think the issue happens mainly when guys are fishing on BP for ladies who have little in the way of background information. Someone has specific desires, limited resources, and wants to zero in. But you're right, requests for specific information will make a lady as uptight as a turkey at a turkey shoot, and understandably so in this world.
Stacy, this assumes that everything a guy would want to know is available through a lady's showcase and reviews. That's not always the case. I could see this being a useful tactic if the guy was looking for something specific -- either a particular physical characteristic, skillset, or activity.
Originally Posted by KCQuestor
Again, as Q mentions, many guys have specifics they are looking for and don't want to waste funds and time just to find out face to face that what they desire isn't on the menu. Some guys, though, have more general wants and have a broader range of what's OK for them. A gent who absolutely has to have a TV dinner with green beans should check the package to make sure it's included before checking out. If there's no indication on the package, or if the packaging merely suggests there might be green beans, he will likely not be happy at dinner. The guys just want to minimize their disappointments and maximize their successes, though life happens like false advertising and YMMV. The ladies want the same min/max, while LE may be falsely advertising themselves as potential clients.
There are no guarantees regardless of information gleaned. But in this consumer-driven society, I can't blame people liking to know as much as they can before making purchases of goods or services, whether green beans or otherwise. And vendors always want to check IDs before accepting a strange check. This whole issue of guys wanting to know and ladies being afraid to say has always been a tough one. Ne'er the twain shall meet? I hope not. Or maybe we should all just be happy with what we get? Well, happy and satisfied are two different stories.
Please note: Thinking about the recent Hank Jr. debacle, I'd better add that I am not directly comparing ladies with turkeys or TV dinners with or without green beans. Any comparisons are indirect and for explanatory purposes only. Having said that, I can now remain blameless, even if still clueless.
On the other hand, COG, our official lightning rod (OLR), is standing on deck.