Exchange Notes from Seeking Arrangements Experiences

That's how I paid. I don't have an SO so I don't have to worry about.

Yeah they want a credit card. And unless you stop it the charges keep coming. I deactivated when I was getting sugar.

I did have a I’m late call. Don’t let the little brain let you create problems you have to pay for. I was a total horn dog. If they didn’t bring up protection I went right in until that scare.

Always make sure you discuss what their limits are. Walked away from from a couple of hot ones because of what all they would not do.

I used Snapchat or KIK to chat offsite. Always get a picture of them holding that days date on a piece of paper. Gets you a real view snd filters out fakes snd yes there are lots of fakes. Told them that they could be as sexy in the photo as they dare. Got rewarded with some sexy shots.

Used a store bought one that you could reload.

So how do you pay the site? With personal credit card? Originally Posted by Curved65

Vanilla Visa or other gift cards work, check the website first. I can't remember if this one or RR didn't take specific gift cards

It’s 70 or 75 a month. Lots of emails unless you turn all that off and yes you want to turn all that traffic off.

Eliminate any who indicate they are a princess or deserve funds. Eliminate any who indicate pay for play. Eliminate any who don't want a friendly chat. Eliminate any who don't want an initial coffee or meal, or want more than $50 for just a chat. Eliminate any who aren;t in work or studying full time. That will get you down to the 5% who are worth the effort. You are there for a longer term deal.

Don't send explicit photos. Don;t talk dirty until you get to know them. Don't ask them 'do you do this or that'. Treat it like a civvy date. If you don't have the patience, move on.

Agree 100%.

8+ years in hobby and having decent game irl didn't prepare me for my dip into the SA waters last year.

In comparison to typical online hobbying:

- You are forced to be patient because these girls are really flakey. Half will just go silent for days or weeks and most will next you if something more financially promising is on horizon at the last minute (same way you would if you found someone hotter and more affordable). Its a lot of fucking work to find anything that is even close to a better value than an escort, and if you do find it, it won't last. It really makes it difficult to find a good fit.

- Don't make the mistake of thinking that SA chicks are in general classier and more "normal" companions than escorts. It's a completely different marketplace since there are not reviews. Many have way worse attitudes (next them). There are also some straight fucking weirdos that would never make it in the hobby, but are on that site - learned this the hard way - she looked great in pics, texted really normal, then showed up to what was one of my favorite restaurants looking ratchet as fuck with a major lack of social skills, very strange experience. Rule of thumb, meet up for the first time somewhere inexpensive and be willing and ready to give her a few bucks and send her on her way back in the parking lot if she misrepresents herself online.

- There are many many more scammers on SA. They will give you sob stories and bullshit that my times in SE Asia didn't even prepare me for. Some real actresses are on there. Protip: you have to understand the psychology on this when they ask for money before meeting for pics or vids or help with a bill or whatever. 95% of the time its a straight scam and she never intended on meeting, 5% of the time or so she might actually be willing to meet.... BUT if you give her anything before you meet, you are 1) setting a horrible precedent and 2) losing a ton of respect. To you it's a nice thing. But keep in mind she gets shut the fuck down by 99% of guys for pulling that shit so if you fall for it, she's going to take you for a sucker.

- they all want long term security. Fuck that. These things aren't meant to last. Do as you wish, but PPM is better for me personally. Pro tip: whether you live in town or not, I ALWAYS tell them I either live somewhere else or travel a fuck ton for work. That way you can always blame your busy mysterious schedule for not seeing them, and can pop in when you are in the mood.

- in general, younger girls are better. You don't want to fuck with girls that have been in the game too long. You ain't on that level yet, and even if you were, you wouldn't waste your time with them.

- I'm not married, but if you have a SO you are keeping it from, keep your real world ID to yourself. With well reviewed providers, I really don't mind bullshitting and mentioning what I do every once in a while after getting to know them. Ain't nobody falling in love and becoming problematic for me and they don't rely on me for shit, drama is unlikely. Same cannot be said for sugar babies.

Not an original thought, but read it here: Dates with civilian girls are the cheapest way to get laid, providers are more expensive than dates, sugar babies are more expensive than providers, gfs are more expensive than sugar babies, fiances are more expensive than gfs, wives are more expensive than fiances, divorce is the most expensive of all.

CHeers

Although I have been hobbying for over 14 years...I personally dont have any experience with SB or SA. To me it just seems like a lot work amd a lot of risk just to get laid. If you have an SO you would be crazy to go on lunch/dinner dates anyway as you risk the most expensive result (if caught) as the previous poster stated. If you are looking for more intimacy/GFE or even a discount off the hobby price investing your time and money with your ATF provider has a better chance of paying off in the long run in my experience. You just have to focus on the right provider...and I guess you have to have some “game”. But patience with that strategy can yield some incredible long term gfe relationships.