VoH, it gives me an idea about their character and I will not see them, exactly. Originally Posted by Anna NikkoleYup! You can tell a lot about a gent by how he initially approaches/contacts you.
I personally find it alarming if a guy calls asking to spank. Everyone gets excited and smacks that ass, I like it. I like my hair pulled too. But when someone specifically ask to spank over the phone it sets off flags. Why the interest unless it's something unusual? What if he wants to hurt someone and in a way is looking for permission to hurt someone? Does this alarm anyone else? Originally Posted by Anna NikkoleHmmm. For me, (not that I am fs), not so much, but I come from a personal interest background of being into kinky sex.
However, I can understand where you're coming from.
To me, it sounds like you have a really good handle on yourself and how to conduct your business. I've always said, that each provider has the right/prerogative to operate within whatever boundaries she feels most comfortable.
There are a few, little things, that trigger me, as well. To other ladies, they may not seem like a big deal or may not bother them, but to me, they do.
I would say in general though, anyone asking me about specific activities before we've even met the first time, is a huge no no for me, and I would refuse to see them on those terms alone.
Once we've gotten to know each other a bit and feel more comfortable, it makes sense to me that a repeat would want to start exploring other avenues, etc and feel more comfortable to ask me about those, but definitely not before the first meet.
As said, it sounds like you know how to handle yourself well doll. It does suck that we have to continuously state our boundaries as providers, but I also feel that it is also just part of being a provider sometimes, le sigh. Lols.
