That was a great response April. I have always thought that too, but I am often confused by what other hobbiests think.I do believe that P4P can have emotion, caring, and connection as long as it has realistic boundaries. When I have a good connection with a client I care about him, feel for him when he is troubled and happy for him when all is going well.
The hardest thing in this thread to communicate is the fact that sex has emotion, connection, and caring for the other person; and pay for play does not. Originally Posted by ttexpatriate
What P4P does not have that a RL relationship does have is the trouble and strife that partners face together and overcome, nor does it have the milestones that two people building a life together create.
If your wife was a waitress would you still want her to come home and wait on you? Or would you let her come home and put her feet up while you brought her something to drink? If the former is the case, why should she go home?
I would have never guess that there is break time when you go home to SO. I would fall in the category, well you did it without me so why not when you come home. Otherwise, what is the point in coming home if you cant get it? Originally Posted by windowshopper
For you gals that have SO and do go home, you must do an awesome job of keeping his ego where it is. Guys are curious just as girls are but more so open. We want to know if we are the best, better than last guy, etc.... Thanks and keep doing what you do as long as ur happy. Originally Posted by windowshopperIt's not about ego, it's about security. He doesn't need to know he's the best or better then the last guy, because he knows where my heart is.
Shouldn't this also be the rule for BCD with a client?? I hate it when I'm BCD and the lady's attention is on the phone or the next client or checking her email. Originally Posted by charlestudor2005Yes it should CS. When BCD with a client it's a standard rule for me. I never answer my phone or check my emails. At home though it's another story. My SO does not always get the same consideration. My home is my office and my work day is from 9am to 10pm. I have to answer my phone when my SO and I are sitting watching a movie, I have to spend time on the computer answering emails,I have to go out and do "field work" If I don't do those things, I don't get work. So to create a balance I set time aside just for him.
The ladies who have posted here are very fortunate to have SO's who are so accommodating to their profession. In my relatively short experience providers have difficulty mixing providing with an open and honest relationship; some just don't have an SO, others have and SO who is unaware of their activities.Thanks Gryphon!
So for those providers who are in an honest relationship with someone who accepts (and maybe is turned on by) their seeing clients, I suggest giving that person some extra-special attention. Such people are rare and should be appreciated.Originally Posted by Gryphon