I've been thinking more about this and I have to revisit. This makes me very angry as double booking is a very very serious hobby crime for either hobbyist or provider. This is an income and livelihood for many of us and this kind of game playing takes food out of our children's mouths. When double booking occurs, this causes the ladies to turn down serious requests for the same day and time. So hopefully your backpedalling clarification is for real and not just an attempt to stop yourself from being included on every ladie's DNS list in your area.
Sorry but yes I do have to hate the hobbyist and/or the provider who would do this because if your taking income out of my household that shit will stop! Imagine how you would feel if somehow somebody was causing you to loose money at your job by some underhanded tactics like this. You wouldn't be saying oh don't hate me, hate the game my ass!
If a provider is doing this as well, any hobbyist with any scruples would stop seeing her because now you know she will play games on you too. It happens, don't try to downplay it because I'm not the only lady who is going this route and we made this decision long before this thread was here. So yes you have struck a serious deep nerve, the wallet nerve and if anybody was striking on yours like this, I think you would feel as strongly as I do about it.
No need to post an alert as my post was all hypothetical. Notice the "LOL'S" in my post. I posted a situation you ladies might be experiencing. Its not cool and doesn't happen as often as you think and especially not by me. If I want to see a lady badly I will do what I need to see her. If she doesn't feel safe with the references I used especially if they were local, I'm definitely gonna call one of them back if they are good.
But if you now change your whole screening requirements just based on my post I must have struck a nerve. Don't hate the hobbiest in those situations, hate the game. That's just a scenario, nothing more.
I will tell you more often than not though, when most provider I saw saw my p411 ith the ok's listed, the next step of calling the references was only added incentive and about only half actually followed through to call.
Originally Posted by gimme_that