You can be anything in the world ... Never forget you are first and foremost a lady! Never chase men, they are supposed to chase you!
Originally Posted by misspriss
That seems a somewhat antiquated perspective even in the context of civilian dating. Certainly some people think that way, and that's fine. But I think that a lot of people no longer hold such opinions. Wasn't that part of what women's liberation, feminism, and the hook-up culture were all about? Freedom to follow that paradigm but also the freedom to seek other paradigms?
And when it comes to P4P, as opposed to civilian dating, why on earth would a business person NOT take the initiative to attract clients? The ladies here already do, to some extent. In civilian dating, you might consider it inappropriate to post a flyer to solicit dates. But many escorts here have a showcase and/or P411 profile. Many post ads. Many encourage word-of-mouth advertising, I.e, reviews. Whether you're talking showcase or ads or reviews or direct, targeted contact of those who've previously done business with you -- it's all business development/marketing. If the other marketing approaches are OK, what's wrong with contacting a former client?
Answer: Probably the fear of doing it poorly, in a manner that offends or alienates that client. Or fear of being turned down.
Well, that's the problem all businesses face. But most of them learn to deal with it. They find ways to contact a client that will not offend/alienate. They (usually) don't do it in a "hard sell" fashion. They touch base to see how things are going. They express their appreciation for past business, usually immediately after that business but often periodically thereafter. They inform the client about an opportunity he might be interested in. They contact him in a way that is not disruptive or intrusive, e,g,, mail or email rather than phone calls, at home rather than at work. Etc., etc.
A more passive approach, relying on indirect contact like posting an ad, probably feels more comfortable to many. And if that's what you want to do, fine. But a more assertive (while still not overly aggressive) is also a valid approach, and those who choose it need not be criticized. Well, at least not for the concept; the execution may leave a bit to be desired. But a good businessperson can usually figure out how to do it well.
