"- to see if they are trustworthy to keep all of our "hooker secrets"
You can trust US! What are the Hooker Secrets?
following reese, err, following up on reese's fantastic posts about friendships in the hobby, ......
if you decided, consciously or unconsciously, that you wanted to become friends with someone in the hobby, male or female, ... and i understand that's a BIG IF ... and that the definition of "friend" will vary widely ....
what characteristics in that person would be more important than others? what characteristics would be a total turnoff and not make them a potential friend? what characteristics would cause you to end the friendship [that's assuming they "sprung it on you" or started showing it sometime after you started the friendship].
would your answer be the same or different if the person was NOT in the hobby in any way, shape or form?
i asked cos over the past 10 yrs, i have met several women and men in our little sub-culture. when i look at me and at them and others, i wonder what it is about me that led some to be involved w/ me [limited friendships as there is that BIG line separating us]. and i sometimes wonder why others have chosen to get involved w/ others whom i would not consider.
for me, it'd be mutual non-hobby interests, candor/straightforwardness/down-to-earthness, humor, laid backness, and understanding that it'd be a now and again thing, not a weekly or frequent hanging together time. [that's why i said it'd be a limited friendship].
and i wouldnt be able to always offer a shoulder to cry on, to be there to help move/fix/replace something, to give you a ride, etc. it'd be more along the lines of let's meet for lunch or dinner or drinks.
like i said, just wondering about what makes some of us tick..... Originally Posted by pmdelites
What you wrote sounds right. Friends lite!Priceless for a price. I like that.
I did not mean for my post to sound so mercenary and cold. What you all provide is priceless for a price. Thanks! Originally Posted by bigcranium