It doesn't matter whether you do incall or outcall, dinner dates, or go to the amusement park with your date. To avoid getting yourself caught up in an uncomfortable situation you need to do the following:
1. Only book with reputable people who have websites and social media presence.
2. Only book with providers who screen. Do you think that undercover agents waste time screening people before they show up to a sting? NO, they don't care or need to know who you are before you show up because they will get your info after arresting you. Screening protects all parties involved.
3. Don't ask for menus in direct nor in coded fashion. Do not book with providers who have menus. Trading sexual favors for anything of value is considered prostitution. Prostitution is illegal everywhere in the U.S except for select establishments in Nevada who have appropriate licensing. Most states do not require you to commit sexual acts to be charged, you only need to have a conversation about it or show intent in committing the act of prostitution to be charged.