Dates

I like this thread!

I think my initial "eh" response is because I have fielded dozens of "let's just meet for coffee!" requests in my long, yet limited life a provider. Some offer to compensate, some don't. I used to jump all over these requests a long time ago when I was 22 and naive. And more often than not, the flirting would turn into an urging for a freebie instead of an appointment request. So I stopped offering OTC first encounters.

THEN I changed up my game and only provided when I traveled to TX, so even if I only had 2 appointments a day, I was also cramming in friend and family time, so even with paid OTC offers, I wasn't able to oblige. I will need to rethink my stance once I'm in Austin for keepsies (soon!). I also feel odd being half of a mismatched pairing for some dates. When I was 22 I went out to lunch with a client and I thought "sure...lunch...people need to eat." But...next thing I know, my 22yo ass is being grabbed in the middle of Truluck's by a 60yo and the entire waitstaff is stopping by to giggle (believe me, I know the drill). So...uh...that keeps me shy. I'm 30 now, but still pass for 24, so I'm still hesitant to a certain point.

I had a much better time with one intelligent lady at a play and dinner than I ever would have had BCD with her. It's OK to have a platonic relationship with a member of the opposite sex.

A friend of mine was an escort. Good work is rarely easy.

Aphro *warning!-a-dinner-date-may-change-your-life* Dite Originally Posted by Aphrodite

A breakfast date changed mine.

It does take a certain geisha level mindset to be "on" for that many hours; I have been asked impromptu to speak on political or current events to a large table of guest, I've been asked to play guitar and/or to sing, one never knows what to expect and it is sometimes a bit disconcerting. Originally Posted by Miss Valentina

So, a third-grade teacher would be ideal.

...it does seem to be a bit backwards around these parts. Here we book time, have an intimate exchange, and then if it all clicks, maybe extend things to a more traditional date type encounter. Originally Posted by Bob McV

Yes

The "fancy ass girls" are partly banking on the fact that guys willing to book that much time and money on an unknown are pretty good at faking a charming if shallow evening of small talk and pleasantries. Then meeting them at least half way with their own acting skills and talent for the job. Originally Posted by Bob McV

Not really. At the (link), please read the paragraph on p. 32 that begins "I was put in the middle of the stage." Please compare that with the paragraph on p. 47 that begins, "To convince yourself..."

I would like to meet with providers that I "click" with for more than just BCD. I would be happy to work in an appointment so as to not waste her time.

It's like real GFE! Not many GFs just want you to come over and fuck!

Wait...what? There is sex involved? Nobody told me that! I've been writing fiction and you guys are getting laid this whole time?!?!

Wait...what? There is sex involved? Nobody told me that! I've been writing fiction and you guys are getting laid this whole time?!?! Originally Posted by 7Dust

uh-oh the secrets out.....

I can pay for dinner and a movie and walk away just as frustrated without the cost of a hookers time. Turn that coin over, if I'm already paying for dinner and a movie or whatever, I damn well better get something out of besides a hard-on with no place to put it. Bottom line, I'm not here to "date." We both know that if there is no $ involved, I don't have a snowballs chance in hell at "dating her." It's my $ that spreads her legs then it's "get the fuck out." I'm paying to fuck her and we both know it. If she wants a "date" then we go by a different set of rules.

I have paid for lunch/dinner at socials but would never pay for the time. But I understand ladies who charge for the privilege. On the other hand, if a provider has no other plans and enjoys the company of a certain guy, why not just go out for a free meal? It doesn't have to be all business all the time.

I dunno when I'm traveling I would definitely rather go out to eat with a friend then sit alone in my room eating take out lol.

Im usually down for an outing and no I don't charge for that time.

I can see the points of the ladies that do tho.