Long Term Client/Provider Relationships

Before I begin, please accept my apology for the novel.

Perhaps there are two versions of long term relationships that are worth of being considered.

One is having a “favorite” companion for a longer length of time, say for years, visiting her a certain number of times each year (how many meetings determining regular or long-term is defined by each individual and girl), while also meeting other, new companions, as if one were on a search for the next “favorite”.

The other version is not only having a “favorite” companion or more than one, but also meeting regularly and exclusively with her or them each month for a longer period of time, say years, while not meeting with others and thus not engaging in a search for the next “favorite”.

I like what Jaycee and Sins accurately described as the benefits and the natural progression of the initial client/provider relationship to a different level, in my opinion and experience. I have typically referred to the situation as “knowing our way around each other”, both physically as well as emotionally/personality-wise. Have friendships been created? Yes, and the level differed with each situation. In most cases, I have learned that girls like someone to talk with as much as we do.

Maybe it is my personality, emotional makeup or something else, but I have always been drawn towards and preferred the second option. The longest arrangement was three and a half years and I am very much enjoying a connection with a wonderful young lady that began fourteen months ago.

Obviously, it is up to the OP to decide which is version is more suitable to him. One other thing to consider may be one’s tenure in this private world. New participants can have that kid in the candy store look and feel about themselves, and a strong desire for variety (I did, early on), so catering to that desire for a period of time is a good solution until one senses the need or desire to form a longer term arrangement.

Either way involves fun and adventure! So, have fun and play safe the way you prefer!

Wow you're a mechanic ... Originally Posted by malwoody

Of course he is. How else can he fix his broken rotor as often as he does.

Back to the thread. Close to 6 years for one gal, who's currently a civie dating consultant. Who else but an actual friend can fire off multiple rounds of sarcastic humor at my current situation, and still leave future prebooks on her schedule until the smoke clears. As other's have mentioned, yes, friendships can occur.

Variety is why I am in the hobby, but having a special friend that you feel comfortable and safe with is pretty great as well. Although I do shop around, I have one friend I have been seeing 5 or more years a this point and will continue to while she is still providing. Someone you know you are compatible with, someone you can talk to about the hobby with no jealousy and have wonderful occassional meetings with is awesome.

Personally, I'm more of a "kinky" guy than the average. So it's a bit difficult to find someone AS kinky (or at least kinky at all) to have a relationship with. Whether that's a personal or a business relationship, it doesn't seem to matter - still difficult.

These days I probably prefer a business relationship. Those "personal" things can get quite messy, emotionally and otherwise. So for a number of years I've been looking for a provider relationship with a kinky girl, one I could stay with for several years and be friends with, as well. I did find one about five years ago, but she exited the hobby when she moved, then moved back, then got pregnant then got married. So I'm in between. But I am desperately looking for a regular!

SO while variety is interesting, in the end it pales compared to knowing what to expect, anticipating the next encounter, and loving the situation. The variety angle brings lots of uncertainty.

SO having said all that, if you're a provider who's kinky/intelligent/witty/humorous, and open to having a regular, let me know!