Variety, Style, Divergent Preferences, Respect and the Consequences of the Lack thereof.

This post, was inspired by some unneeded and frankly off topic negative remarks in a private area, but I thought this discussion more appropriately belonged right here in Co-Ed. I have been thinking about this for a long while and have generally avoided posting in Welcome and Introductions and in Coed Discussions due to what I perceive as a disrespectful and negative attitude that consumes many of the posts here and has had a miserable affect on the boards IMHO.
Yours Tworthy,
Russ Originally Posted by Russ Tworthy

Hey Russ let's take this part of your thread back to that private area. I would LOVE to chat about your concerns there!

We'll leave the rest of your thread here for the ladies to enjoy!

Let's face some harsh realities here on Eccie Austin. Because the rude bullies have ran off all the women off it's not any fun in here. Lately it is just a bunch of the same guys talking to themselves, notice how few women participate. it's because if we dare to say anything or contribute we are in danger of being singled out and called old, fat, undesirable and loads of derogatory words like whore etc. if you kind gents agreeing here would speak up and defend us women in coed when the hate mongering bullies mouth off and label broad swatches of women with derogatory terms then we might not avoid this site and the eccie men would not seem to suck as bad. to be quiet in the face of bullying is to accept and yes even condone the bullying. As the oldest fattest so called undesirable whore here, I am sick of the abuse and ugly attitude the most frequent posters have. your silence when they zoom in on the women and berate us is consent to this behavior. thank you sir for saying what most all of us women have been thinking for a long time. now lets change the nature of coed by being nice and having interesting conversation and respecting each other and value the diversity in our community by being nice to everyone, even the ones not on your personal menu. this conversation is long overdue.

Having moved to Austin in 2012, I was adamantly warned about the guys in Austin. One of my 'gents' told me a story about a Provider who was ripped apart because of her weight. She became anorexic, lost her health, and was close to suicide because of the 'guys' who would publicly bash her.
This was my first experience of the Austin Co-Ed board! Terrifying, Yes?
I have been careful to steer clear of the one's who exhibit such little respect for others and their feelings. If they speak this way on the boards, imagine what their bed side manner is like? Rough hands and small dicks is the first image that comes to mind.
I have seen traveling ladies considering coming to this area, I will PM those ladies with a word of caution! READ OUR CO ED! It is all there in black and white! The horrid, disrespectful, childish, LIMP, bloated and yes OLD type of angry guys that bash women are the type that you want to stay away from!
I realize that I will receive all types of 'old' and 'fat' comments from those too drenched with feminine hate to realize that they are the one's who are directly responsible for the 'Really Bad Rap' that all of the 'True Gentlemen' of Austin have to deal with.
Ladies...if you are reading this...there are some really wonderful guys that hobby in the ATX! The dude's who will, undoubtedly tear me a new one for having the gall to speak my mind are the guys to avoid...like the plague! Their response will follow shortly.... Ok, you two...GO!

Let's face some harsh realities here on Eccie Austin. Because the rude bullies have ran off all the women off it's not any fun in here. Lately it is just a bunch of the same guys talking to themselves, notice how few women participate. it's because if we dare to say anything or contribute we are in danger of being singled out and called old, fat, undesirable and loads of derogatory words like whore etc. if you kind gents agreeing here would speak up and defend us women in coed when the hate mongering bullies mouth off and label broad swatches of women with derogatory terms then we might not avoid this site and the eccie men would not seem to suck as bad. to be quiet in the face of bullying is to accept and yes even condone the bullying. As the oldest fattest so called undesirable whore here, I am sick of the abuse and ugly attitude the most frequent posters have. your silence when they zoom in on the women and berate us is consent to this behavior. thank you sir for saying what most all of us women have been thinking for a long time. now lets change the nature of coed by being nice and having interesting conversation and respecting each other and value the diversity in our community by being nice to everyone, even the ones not on your personal menu. this conversation is long overdue. Originally Posted by sue_nami

I've been posting here 4.5 years and this same topic comes up from time to time, and it's always said all the women have been run off it's not fun here anymore.
So when was it fun? A year or two before you joined?
Use the search function, you will find this same thread many times over.

then maybe u guys should stop supporting and being serial bullies and continually running off the girls. it shows this is an entrenched and long running problem here. if the guys are rude, the chicks do not want to hang here. it is simple. why is common respect and politeness such a difficult and controversial ideal for us to pursue?

At some point it had to be alright if you're saying it's no fun anymore.
And just because I'm disagreeing, I'm not calling derogatory names.

RT, well stated.

Rick, the good times come and go here as far as I can tell in my 2.75 years here and it probably has a whole lot to do with one particular bully's predictable cycle of inundating the board with meanness, misogyny and rudeness for a few months and then disappearing for months only to reappear and act nice around the time of a charity xmas event.

Very Well Said, RT. I have always valued your reviews and found you to be a straight shooter on eccie. You bring up many valid points in you first and supplemental posts. I am glad to see that you're getting some traction with others supporting your opinions.

There has been too much Drama in ATX Coed this last month. Agree with your observation that many ladies are leaving eccie and looking to other boards that may not be so abusive.

I believe that the ATX Mods should have stepped in earlier and cooled everyone off sooner than they did. Don't know why it took so long. Coed and the other areas should NOT be a place for a few with alternate agendas, the most prolific of the posters admitted that he doesn't see providers, but just feels a need to police the boards to meet his expectations and standards.

We all need to take back our forums, and treat each other with respect. Seek out the people we want to see in sessions, but please do not belittle the others who are not your cup of tea. Many ladies and many hobbyists are on here for a variety of reasons, but most are looking to hook up for BCD sessions, not score debating points.

Eccie should be a safe haven to ask questions, gain information and make personal arrangements to meet other "birds of a feather."

Hobby Safe, Hobby On.

Russ....very well written. I never post in this section...but you earned a respect and responce. Let's face it...we are Johns and the gals are providers. WE ARE ALL STILL HUMAN BEINGS. We all deserve respect. Sure BCD you may treat her as a whore or call her a cunt or whatever. The bottom line is you are paying her to act like that. Put yourself in her place when someone PM'S and says I would like to see you. She has no idea what you look like. She has no idea if you're really dangerous. She really has no idea what's going to happen in the next half hour or hour. Is she worth 300 dollars an hour? In some cases absolutely! In most cases probably not. I simply choose not to pay that amount for anyone.

Anyway... I do have to say there are some really narrow men on this board. Most of them are the ones that post constantly, mostly about trivial things. I will tell the ladies this, there is a silent majority on this board that does read the reviews and makes rational decisions on where they're going to spend their money. This should not be a forum for insults. This is a forum to satisfy the needs that we have as men. It is also a form that the providers can advertise their services so they can get what they want.

So that is it, I will chime in in about another year.

Z,

Very disappointed in your post (#15).

I know you didn't mean to sound supportive of those who make this an unpleasant place to be - I know you to be one of the good guys and appreciate your presence here; however,

TNB's reaction is a normal rational reaction which many of us have taken (me included) to a Board allowed to run amuck - it's normal for a good guy (or gal) to just choose to not play in the shit. Too bad staff doesn't seem to be able to do anything positive about this situation.

And thanks for your tooting in on this BugleBoy!

RT

great post RT!!
we've met a few times at non eccie sponsored events,and tend to like alot of the same ladies (damn i miss txykat)
ive always found Russ to be a class act both on and off the boards. and, thoroughly enjoy your reviews

Russ you are absolutely correct in that a good number of the Ladies have showcases on here. How ever the few I see Regularly no longer post ads or read the junk posted on here. They tell me it's too negative to bother with.
I have reached a point to where I only look at the reviews. and then only certain reviewers...You are one !!

Thank You for posting this much needed thread.

Dog / 4

Many ladies and many hobbyists are on here for a variety of reasons, but most are looking to hook up for BCD sessions, not score debating points. Originally Posted by BugleBoy

+1

I think a lot of the long time hobbyists don't want to engage here anymore and there's no question fewer providers participate. The only slight issue I would take is blaming the mods.

Ztonk, for one, has been pretty clear he doesn't like the tone of the board. These guys take direction from the board owners. It's the board ownership who are responsible. There's speculation about some members having a financial stake in the board and I don't pretend to know. When Amber owned it, back in the day, it was a different place and a lot of the bullshit shananigans wasn't tolerated.

When you're the only game in town, you can run things like you want. I honestly wouldn't care about the shit throwing if I didn't feel like it's preventing me from GETTING LAID. Good local providers are vanishing from the scene while dime store pimps are proliferating. I'm not saying this is all the fault of people who "participate" on this board but if the goal was to bully/coerce certain providers out of the business in favor of some other.....interests.

But hey, that's just speculation on my part.