References!

im not here to get into a tuss with anyone just stating thaat i think the provider and client have different ways to look at it, for me this is a hobby meaning i do it when i have time and funds to do it, if i have to worry about o my god i have to see so and so before such and such a time, then its no longer a hobby but a responsibility, like marriage, hobbys are for fun and relaxation not having to worry about this or that, it just seems to much like you better see me in this time frame or else, i mean if thats the case then all the reviews should be taken down that are olden than 6 months, i mean lets be even here, i look at all reviews if its 2015 or 1999 as im sure most clients do, so how can a provider say i have so and so reviews if they are 5 years old, again not here to start anything just giving a thought from a guy not scared to do so thats all.

I doubt anyone reads 5-year-old reviews to determine whether or not they want to see a provider. If she didn't have any current reviews, it would raise questions and be an issue for most, and that is exactly my point...

guys do we read them all

i saw someone a couple months back who had been out of the game for years, all by past reviews. and it was great

I've clearly conveyed my stance on this, with explanations that you should be able to understand. I won't continue to debate this with you. Have a great day!

Recent references are important to me as well. I rarely see anyone i havent already met since i have been so busy with RL projects and obligations. My incall is my house, and i need to feel safe and secure with each hobbyist that comes here. I have wiggled a little on my policy a time or 2, based on my instincts or recognition of them from their posting and reviews, or given a great reference from respected providers....but this is RARE!
At one time i was fine seeing anyone i had alrdy seen, no matter how long it had been. Recently i had a request fome someone i saw years ago who hapnd to have done one of my first reviews. He hadnt been active in over a year but i didnt see any harm in seeing him bcuz he was pretty active on here at one time. He wanted to come over now for an hour so i accepted the appt and gave him my address. He never showed or called. After many pm's and texts to him i still to this day have never heard a word, not even so much as an apology.So now i worry sometimes when i think abt it, bcuz he has my address and idk the circumstances surrounding his actions! You never know a persons mental state or personal motives. Each and every visit is an isolated event surrounded only by whats going on in the world concerning myself and the client at that moment. But we still have to have sum guideline or rule as a standard for who we will or wont see. Its whatever makes u comfortable and differs from one provider to the next.
Im thankful for newb friendly providers and those with lighter screening than me, bcuz they give me the security i need when i have to later screen those guys. Personally, as a rule i am only seeing regular clients. But if i decide to see anyone else, they must have been a member for 6 months with 2 reputable provider references. Even then, i will trust my instincts about them as i look over their profile and postings.

I saw a guy last night from P411 who had a 7 year gap between his OKAYS. His last OKAY was from March. I understand guys only play when they have the means so I'm not downing anyone.

So let me get this straight.. I have to have 3 current providers references within a 3-6 month time span And none of my reviews count? Well that's just fucking lovely! Like most men on here, I have a life that doesn't allow me to bang out 3 different, concurrent visits in that short a time. Once every 2 months is pushing it for me, let alone once a month with 3 different providers, all of which require 3 different providers references as well!!

I get that you ladies have to be careful. I respect and appreciate that. It's good for everyone. But the rules some of you have in place are narrowing your numbers of clients. Thank God for New (ish) friendly providers like Mary Beth, Jamie Marie, Kourtney K and so on. Otherwise, I wouldn't see anyone on here...

Cock blocking whores are visible through the excuses,,,,

So let me get this straight.. I have to have 3 current providers references within a 3-6 month time span And none of my reviews count? Well that's just fucking lovely! Like most men on here, I have a life that doesn't allow me to bang out 3 different, concurrent visits in that short a time. Once every 2 months is pushing it for me, let alone once a month with 3 different providers, all of which require 3 different providers references as well!!

I get that you ladies have to be careful. I respect and appreciate that. It's good for everyone. But the rules some of you have in place are narrowing your numbers of clients. Thank God for New (ish) friendly providers like Mary Beth, Jamie Marie, Kourtney K and so on. Otherwise, I wouldn't see anyone on here... Originally Posted by 1inamillion205

I don't know who you're addressing concerning three current references within a 3–6 month period, I never said that...

I'm talking about references that are years old. I won't give one that's years old and I certainly wouldn't accept anything so dated.

Like Tara stated, there are exceptions to every rule. Six months is a general guideline. Now if it's someone that I have seen more than once and have kept in contact with, obviously it would not be an issue. If I'm struggling to remember anything about you, then that is a problem.

If I'm seeking a reference, and the girl responds telling me that it's been years & she "thinks" she saw him, but can't remember anything, I will refer him to a newbie friendly provider. Safety is not something I'm comfortable taking chances with. As providers, we are the ones paying the ultimate price if anything were to go wrong. My requirements are there for a reason.

safety is always important , i think reviews are good thing but not a reference how many times on the board have we seen someone said they were so and so and provider only went by the users handle and get shorted, the donation and put up a alert on said hobbyist and it was not even him, screening is pain at times but a necessary for the safety of hobbyist and providers, i don't hobby a whole lot either but i try to keep it with in 3 months , and have p411 which keeps all my references so anytime i see a eccie provider it's their.

So let me get this straight.. I have to have 3 current providers references within a 3-6 month time span And none of my reviews count? Well that's just fucking lovely! Like most men on here, I have a life that doesn't allow me to bang out 3 different, concurrent visits in that short a time. Once every 2 months is pushing it for me, let alone once a month with 3 different providers, all of which require 3 different providers references as well!!

I get that you ladies have to be careful. I respect and appreciate that. It's good for everyone. But the rules some of you have in place are narrowing your numbers of clients. Thank God for New (ish) friendly providers like Mary Beth, Jamie Marie, Kourtney K and so on. Otherwise, I wouldn't see anyone on here... Originally Posted by 1inamillion205

Who said none of your reviews count?

I know some girls here like to keep guys to themselves and fuck up his dates with other providers. I talked to one guy who said he used a provider as a reference and she went and told the other girl that she hasn't seen him in years (which was a lie). Total BS.

One reason I'm newbie friendly is because we were all a newb once. It pisses me off that girls will purposely fuck up a good thing because they're jealous.

Reviews count with me.
Your old references (if she remembers you) count with me
As long as you don't kill me, kidnap me, or cause me any harm then we good

everyone is talking about references an reviews I was out the business 5 years raising my son. I still remember every client that seen me an where I seen them the first time. I can also remember providers that are still here an use to be here. I also remember little things about our encounters in order to remind providers who I am if I have dealt with them. I also know how important safety is I did get in trouble an run into LE an i posted a full story about it. I also came back to the Hobby an I have seen a few men that was kind an brave enough to visit. Some men don't post reviews which is fine that's up to them each of my visitors I give a special way to be remembered in case they need a reference. This is a way for us to identify each other an still be safe.

...I know some girls here like to keep guys to themselves and fuck up his dates with other providers. I talked to one guy who said he used a provider as a reference and she went and told the other girl that she hasn't seen him in years (which was a lie). Total BS... Originally Posted by MaryBeth

I've experienced that when asking for references, as well. It's totally unprofessional and highly annoying. Or even worse, when the provider turns around and offers a better deal to the client you're seeking the reference on, trying to take the appointment from you. I've had several clients tell me about girls that have done that.

Thankfully, most of the ladies I know are sweet, professional and share references without difficulties.

Who said none of your reviews count?

I know some girls here like to keep guys to themselves and fuck up his dates with other providers. I talked to one guy who said he used a provider as a reference and she went and told the other girl that she hasn't seen him in years (which was a lie). Total BS.

One reason I'm newbie friendly is because we were all a newb once. It pisses me off that girls will purposely fuck up a good thing because they're jealous.

Reviews count with me.
Your old references (if she remembers you) count with me
As long as you don't KISS me, kidnap me, or cause me any harm then we good Originally Posted by MaryBeth

Fixed that for ya.