the wife calls

I've written alerts on this it's not cool. Originally Posted by Lexxxy

no ...yer alerts aint cool ...at all

I'm always amazed when I hear stories like this. Especially when its the type of situation OSD related. I unfortunately have personal knowledge of this type of hypocrisy. This was before I got into Hobbying. My ex basically shut off our physical relations (for lack of a better description). So I started trolling the "Adult Internet Dating" sites for partners. I found out the hard way that my ex put a Keystroke logging program on our home computer. I figured it out when she referenced stuff I had done on it. But not things done from my work computer. So she started calling the people I had been in contact with and leaving nasty messages. This pretty much shutdown everything I had going on at the time.

Anyway, about a Year later. The ex leaves her Smartphone Home and unlocked when she goes out one day. Up until then the phone had either always been in her possession or locked. That day I found out why. While the phone was in my possession no less than 10 guys Texted her and one called (I didn't answer). And quite a few of them were referencing dates with her and Sex acts performed with her. Needless to say she was quite freaked out when she got back Home. By which time I had locked the phone and put it back where she left it. Mind you this was after I wrote down the information on the guys that tried to contact her. The next day I called my Lawyer for an appointment and gave him the info to start the Divorce proceedings. I now understand why I was this Woman's third Husband. Originally Posted by RochBob

sound like ya know how ta ...pick em

...but congrats ol jimmie ...sharin yer story puts ya in ...contention ...fer cuck post of the year

Gee.....you were fucking her husband. For money.

Wonder why she would have been mad?


elg...... Originally Posted by elghund

Gee.....I totally understand why she would have been mad!!!

If I was in that situation where the man I loved and built a family with was having sex with another women behind my back I would be heart broken.. I felt terribly guilty about the whole situation, its not my intention at all to hurt anyone or break up a family. .

On the other hand her husband saw me every wed, he would pick me up at my house around 10 pm and spend an hour or so with me for over 6 months.. if that was my husband I would be questioning his late night rides and hundreds off $ missing way sooner..

Its a messed up situation all together, but in this hobby it seems to be the norm... I would rather not know or be involved bc yes I do feel for the women and family's who may be affected.. ik it sounds terrible to say but the guys who are involved with a SO really need to cover their tracks for the peace of mind of all involved.

Fuckin elg.....

Gee.....I totally understand why she would have been mad!!!

If I was in that situation where the man I loved and built a family with was having sex with another women behind my back I would be heart broken.. I felt terribly guilty about the whole situation, its not my intention at all to hurt anyone or break up a family. .

On the other hand her husband saw me every wed, he would pick me up at my house around 10 pm and spend an hour or so with me for over 6 months.. if that was my husband I would be questioning his late night rides and hundreds off $ missing way sooner..

Its a messed up situation all together, but in this hobby it seems to be the norm... I would rather not know or be involved bc yes I do feel for the women and family's who may be affected.. ik it sounds terrible to say but the guys who are involved with a SO really need to cover their tracks for the peace of mind of all involved.

Fuckin elg..... Originally Posted by trisha.xxx .countrygirl

You shouldn't feel bad at all. In my opinion what you girls do for us is outstanding. Society being on the side of the wife allows them to make us out to be the villain. But in my opinion women are just as much at fault. Being one of those husbands that was cut off sexually early on in marriage
(and I have been amazed at how many men are in the same boat as I) I believe part of the blame needs to be put back on the wife. Is it really to much to expect that once or twice a week she would take care of my needs? It is not like they do not know the need is real. And it is not like I am just selfishly saying "OK I am going to fuck you." I was always just as concerned with her pleasure as I was mine. And I still am that way with the girls I see. I try hard to make the encounter pleasurable and treat them with the utmost respect. Not being a woman I obviously do not understand why a wife would not want to continue to keep that intimacy growing.
So in my opinion a huge Thank you to the girls that are willing to give themselves to me and help me by meeting my needs. Monday nights for me are the highlight of my life. And for those that will say "yes, but your paying them. Of course they are taking care of you" believe me I would have gladly spent all of that and more on my wife if we had an intimate relationship. If your interested in intimacy like I am and you are persistent and find the right girl, it can be fantastic.

You shouldn't feel bad at all. In my opinion what you girls do for us is outstanding. Society being on the side of the wife allows them to make us out to be the villain. But in my opinion women are just as much at fault. Being one of those husbands that was cut off sexually early on in marriage
(and I have been amazed at how many men are in the same boat as I) I believe part of the blame needs to be put back on the wife. Is it really to much to expect that once or twice a week she would take care of my needs? It is not like they do not know the need is real. And it is not like I am just selfishly saying "OK I am going to fuck you." I was always just as concerned with her pleasure as I was mine. And I still am that way with the girls I see. I try hard to make the encounter pleasurable and treat them with the utmost respect. Not being a woman I obviously do not understand why a wife would not want to continue to keep that intimacy growing.
So in my opinion a huge Thank you to the girls that are willing to give themselves to me and help me by meeting my needs. Monday nights for me are the highlight of my life. And for those that will say "yes, but your paying them. Of course they are taking care of you" believe me I would have gladly spent all of that and more on my wife if we had an intimate relationship. If your interested in intimacy like I am and you are persistent and find the right girl, it can be fantastic. Originally Posted by FlyboyNY

I've been through this, and my opinion is, once things turn shitty in the bedroom, the rest is worthless.

So....why stay married? Move on.


elg......

Gee.....I totally understand why she would have been mad!!!

If I was in that situation where the man I loved and built a family with was having sex with another women behind my back I would be heart broken.. I felt terribly guilty about the whole situation, its not my intention at all to hurt anyone or break up a family. .

On the other hand her husband saw me every wed, he would pick me up at my house around 10 pm and spend an hour or so with me for over 6 months.. if that was my husband I would be questioning his late night rides and hundreds off $ missing way sooner..

Its a messed up situation all together, but in this hobby it seems to be the norm... I would rather not know or be involved bc yes I do feel for the women and family's who may be affected.. ik it sounds terrible to say but the guys who are involved with a SO really need to cover their tracks for the peace of mind of all involved.

Fuckin elg..... Originally Posted by trisha.xxx .countrygirl

Don't be a hypocrite. If you really gave a shit about those families, you wouldn't hook.

elg......

I've been through this, and my opinion is, once things turn shitty in the bedroom, the rest is worthless.

So....why stay married? Move on.


elg...... Originally Posted by elghund

Everybody has different reasons for staying. Mine are kids and grand kids.

I've been through this, and my opinion is, once things turn shitty in the bedroom, the rest is worthless.

So....why stay married? Move on.


elg...... Originally Posted by elghund

I'd have to agree. Unless there's a significant reason that bedroom activity has to cease...
Either way, there are many levels of intimacy that aren't just sex. Far too many guys are looking for much more than the quick lay to release tension. When a guy is seeking out the more emotional type of attention... Again they shouldn't be married.

I'd have to agree. Unless there's a significant reason that bedroom activity has to cease...
Either way, there are many levels of intimacy that aren't just sex. Far too many guys are looking for much more than the quick lay to release tension. When a guy is seeking out the more emotional type of attention... Again they shouldn't be married. Originally Posted by TheBisexualPhilogynist

Agree.. If u ant happy leave.. The kids know more than you think.. For those who said the thing about the kids.

Soo.. I wake up to 5 missed private calls and 4 voicemails from someones wife.. Haha she didnt say her her boo boo was but she was pissed.. Oh did i memtion i actually anwsered the phone and she was stuck.. Haha
Who else this happened too Originally Posted by Legacy69

This is why I have a "Google Voice" number now. It anonymous.

Don't be a hypocrite. If you really gave a shit about those families, you wouldn't hook.

elg...... Originally Posted by elghund

Have to disagree here. Can't blame the providers for what we do. No more than when a guys drinking destroys a family can we blame the bars. I find that the girls who do think about the families and care are extra careful to help protect us. They know how important discretion is. I have known girls that didn't give a shit only cared about the money. Those are the ones to be careful with. My regular definitely cares. Enough to make sure I don't get hurt in this.

Everybody has different reasons for staying. Mine are kids and grand kids. Originally Posted by FlyboyNY

I understand......I have kids and grandkids......they survived better once I was single.

And.......I survived better.

But that's just me.

elg......

Have to disagree here. Can't blame the providers for what we do. No more than when a guys drinking destroys a family can we blame the bars. I find that the girls who do think about the families and care are extra careful to help protect us. They know how important discretion is. I have known girls that didn't give a shit only cared about the money. Those are the ones to be careful with. My regular definitely cares. Enough to make sure I don't get hurt in this. Originally Posted by FlyboyNY

some SO's don't want to do certain things or only want to play certain ways, I appreciate that the hobby exists so I can do other things that she wont do or try BCD.

like fly said, we are all in this for our own reasons, and it is nice that most don't judge why or what we are doing

Have to disagree here. Can't blame the providers for what we do. No more than when a guys drinking destroys a family can we blame the bars. I find that the girls who do think about the families and care are extra careful to help protect us. They know how important discretion is. I have known girls that didn't give a shit only cared about the money. Those are the ones to be careful with. My regular definitely cares. Enough to make sure I don't get hurt in this. Originally Posted by FlyboyNY

Flyboy, all due respect to you as we disagree and discuss.

I partake of the hobby, as you do. We all have our reasons. And, I am glad that there are ladies who choose to do this! At this time of life, I'd be mostly stuck fucking Ladies in my age group, if there weren't ladies twenty to forty years younger than me, willing to provide for a living.

BUT........these girls would not fuck a good number of us if they met us in a bar, with no money exchanging hands.......or anyplace else, for that matter. That's a given.

I would venture to guess that your regular would not be so inclined to protect you if you shut off the funds.

Not that providers aren't human.....they sure are! And, friendships and relationships can start in the strangest places, for sure!

But, I can tell you this.....I would NOT go to work unless I was paid.

Too many hobbyists forget that hooking is a providers job....and it ain't being done for charity.

They are not protecting you......they are protecting their revenue stream.

And, I don't blame them for it. I applaud them.


elg.......

Justification bullshit running deep. Especially elg. That's some deep shit you wade in, must have taken a long time to get yourself to believe it.