Asexual all of a sudden?

Based on your profile and http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/educ...MI/bmicalc.htm

Your BMI is 40+ and maybe you should consider doing research on the connection between obesity and testosterone. I'm certain this isn't anything you havent heard from your doc. The combo of increasing age and morbid obesity is simply contrary to a decent sex drive. Talk to your doc about this. It's nothing he/she hasn't heard and you'll get great advice about near and longterm steps.

Also, take the advice above and try an older, larger (non-spinner) provider. In FTW, Lita would be at the top of my list. I'm guessing there will be a few providers that may hesitate consulting with a larger hobbyist. Make sure your P411 (if you have it) profile includes accurate height and weight. The last thing you want to do is show up and be turned away.

Al lot o good advise in this thread. I agree w a check of the physical possibilities.

But, what I am hearing from you , what are really looking for is intimacy not just sex. The lack of this in your hobby encounters leaves you feeling empty.

All I can say is you will most likely not find this in the hobby. While I do have several ladies I see that I enjoy spending time w beyond just the sexual level. It is never true intimacy. Luckily I do have a few RW friends that I do share a high level of emotional intimacy with ( both male and female).

It has taken years of therapy for me to learn how to be intimate. I used to think sex was intimacy, but it's not. It's just sex.

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I would definitely get my testosterone checked! Dr. Wanted to check mine a couple years ago, he was right it was low. I didn't realize how far down in the dumps I was until I started treatment. Mood, focus, drive, energy, like a fog was lifted.

Based on your profile and http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/educ...MI/bmicalc.htm

Your BMI is 40+ and maybe you should consider doing research on the connection between obesity and testosterone. I'm certain this isn't anything you havent heard from your doc. The combo of increasing age and morbid obesity is simply contrary to a decent sex drive. Talk to your doc about this. It's nothing he/she hasn't heard and you'll get great advice about near and longterm steps.

Also, take the advice above and try an older, larger (non-spinner) provider. In FTW, Lita would be at the top of my list. I'm guessing there will be a few providers that may hesitate consulting with a larger hobbyist. Make sure your P411 (if you have it) profile includes accurate height and weight. The last thing you want to do is show up and be turned away.
Originally Posted by Bobster36

Yes i know my BMI is bad, im also dieting because i have to lose 100 pounds becasue i need an entire new hip. It is a slow process.

The providers i have seen are not spinners by no means it isnt the body type it is more of the mentallity, one 2 have been ok but i just havent found exactly what i been wanting.

Al lot o good advise in this thread. I agree w a check of the physical possibilities.

But, what I am hearing from you , what are really looking for is intimacy not just sex. The lack of this in your hobby encounters leaves you feeling empty.

All I can say is you will most likely not find this in the hobby. While I do have several ladies I see that I enjoy spending time w beyond just the sexual level. It is never true intimacy. Luckily I do have a few RW friends that I do share a high level of emotional intimacy with ( both male and female).

It has taken years of therapy for me to learn how to be intimate. I used to think sex was intimacy, but it's not. It's just sex. Originally Posted by koseylee

not lookin for that really trust me, it is soemthing else. just cant put my finger on it. I aint lookin for a hobby wife lol.

Sounds like u r tired of the process of ur sex life try something different, EXPERIMENT

Yes i know my BMI is bad, im also dieting because i have to lose 100 pounds becasue i need an entire new hip. It is a slow process.

The providers i have seen are not spinners by no means it isnt the body type it is more of the mentallity, one 2 have been ok but i just havent found exactly what i been wanting. Originally Posted by Duthgar1976

Simple fact: No one ever gets exactly what they want.

This is a good thread. Healthy diet, healthy weight, excercise, get your T hormones checked, proper meds. All common sense stuff. C'Mon America, get healthy, get horny and get back to some good fucking!

Each of us has to take good care of ourselves. Why? Because no one else is going to do it for us. It has never been easier to get health and fitness related info. Can you say, "Internet?" Get off the couch. Stop watching an entire series on Netflix. Go for a long walk. Stretch out. Buy some weights or join a gym.

C'Mon, we are adults here. We already know this simple stuff. JUST DO IT and stop making excuses. Take responsibility for your own well being.

Sorry for the rant. It's not just the government that is screwed up. Its also Americans' general lack of self reliance and ability to take responsibility for there own self destructive habits.

Go ahead flame me.

Talk to your PCP or your shrink about your situation. It could be anhedonia or lack of libido secondary to your mental or physical condition. But they can't treat it if you don't tell them about it.

just cant put my finger on it. Originally Posted by Duthgar1976

try putting your mouth on it.. that often makes me horny!

It could be anhedonia Originally Posted by TexTushHog

really, TTH? you're going to suggest another Country might be at fault for his problem?



okay, just looked up the word.. "inability to feel pleasure".. now I need to learn how to pronounce it, LOL

I do thank everyone for their input, i have heard a lot of this before just that i tend to forget things ,hell i forget to take my meds half the time.

I do need to get a hold of my doctor its that tiem of the year so might as well get the T checked as well. I still enjoy the idea of being with a woman its jsut that i have had a lot of dissappointments and honestly im a disabled veteran on a fixed income so when i play its a good chunck of change for me so being let down really really sucks.