What feature are you most willing to spend the $ on?

Attitude / commitment
Looks
Great Ass

Dealbreakers:
1. Incall
2. Attention to security and discretion - if in the research phase I see anything that makes me feel like I and my personal information will not be 100% secure, I will not see the person.

As a client, I do literally everything in my power to make the lady feel comfortable...I try to be the most understanding, laid back, drama free, appreciative, agreeable client as I can. What I expect in return is for the lady to at least match my effort in making me feel comfortable. Will we click sexually? That's always TBD, but I care more about whether I can trust the person that I'm with to respect my privacy.

If both of those non negotiables are met, then if I'm looking for someone new I would say

1. Personality or feel of their personality - I want to find people I will have FUN with. I deal with enough assholes in my life every single day. I don't need to pay someone 200-300 an hour to get that.

2. Face (although I've seen several that don't show it in showcase...you can tell from reviews usually if they're very attractive or not)

3. Activities in the reviews. Agree with the others that BBBJ must be on the table.

4. Curves


For repeats:
1. How much fun did we have?
2. How skilled was she?
3. How hot was she?

IOP is incredibly important but personal chemistry, just enjoying being around her tops that. A nut is not worth that much money. A great moment in time where you really feel respected, appreciated, and taken care of...that is.

Dealbreakers:
1. Incall
2. Attention to security and discretion - if in the research phase I see anything that makes me feel like I and my personal information will not be 100% secure, I will not see the person.

As a client, I do literally everything in my power to make the lady feel comfortable...I try to be the most understanding, laid back, drama free, appreciative, agreeable client as I can. What I expect in return is for the lady to at least match my effort in making me feel comfortable. Will we click sexually? That's always TBD, but I care more about whether I can trust the person that I'm with to respect my privacy.

If both of those non negotiables are met, then if I'm looking for someone new I would say

1. Personality or feel of their personality - I want to find people I will have FUN with. I deal with enough assholes in my life every single day. I don't need to pay someone 200-300 an hour to get that.

2. Face (although I've seen several that don't show it in showcase...you can tell from reviews usually if they're very attractive or not)

3. Activities in the reviews. Agree with the others that BBBJ must be on the table.

4. Curves


For repeats:
1. How much fun did we have?
2. How skilled was she?
3. How hot was she?

IOP is incredibly important but personal chemistry, just enjoying being around her tops that. A nut is not worth that much money. A great moment in time where you really feel respected, appreciated, and taken care of...that is. Originally Posted by RJinLR

Well said. Iop is quickly becoming everything in the hobby to me. I can't believe it didn't make my initial list lol

She has to be pretty, provide and enjoy BBBJ, preferably thin, Nut for me to go back, I have to like her and she has to at least act like she likes me. Personality and brains are a must for me.

Off the top of my head - and probably rambling a bit. This is actually a complicated process. I grade a lot harder on the front end than I do after, so long as the date is not a complete disaster. Every time I go through the AR showcases I realize that there are only 25 - 30% of the ladies here that I have seen or want to see. I have rounded out my choices by seeing quite a few traveling ladies. Some of what I am about to write also ties in heavily with who I choose to have repeat visits with.

1. Attitude - or my perception of it for a first time visit. A lady that does a strong job of making me feel appreciated will earn repeat visits. Perhaps many. I want to strongly believe before I visit the first time, that I will visit more times. Make me believe you enjoy being with me - and if you have to be an actress to do that, be a damn good one. Obviously that ties into an IOP. But a lady has to be careful with her IOP. Too much and it can seem fake. You will never hear me say you have an easy job but it's the job you have. NONE of this means that I don't respect a lady with an opinion. In fact, I much prefer them to doormats. Strong ladies don't threaten me as a male. Which ties in to factor 2.....

2. Intelligence - or my perception of it on a first time date. I am over 60. Our hour or two will not resemble a porn movie with non-stop "action". There is going to be some cuddle and recovery time. A lady that can hold an intelligent conversation is a big turn on to me during that time (or any other time). I also am well aware that intelligent ladies are far less prone to put me in a situation I don't want to be in. If I perceive a lady as lacking in intelligence, the game is over before it starts. Which ties in to factor 3.....

3. TCB - my hobby ops are way the hell too limited to waste one on a lady that does not run her business like a business and treat me like a customer she wants to earn repeat business with. This obviously ties in closely with factors 1 and 2. Also tying into this is a sense that she values her safety, discretion and privacy every bit as much as I value mine. Nothing fucks up a date more for me than learning otherwise. And that perception has kept me from seeing some ladies.

4. Skills - or perceived skills for a first time visit. I am not overly demanding and realize that chemistry plays a role but your role is to make me believe we are compatible for an hour or two. One absolute deal breaker - CBJ. I have never had one, or at least one where the intent was completion, and don't intend to start now.

5. Looks - but I am somewhat flexible here. I am far from perfect and don't expect perfection in others. Obviously, if someone is butt ass ugly, I can't close my eyes tight enough to make that go away. But I find attractive features in a wide range of ladies and I have enjoyed a wide range of body sizes, faces (as long as they have a nice smile on them), etc., if factors 1 - 4 are strong. I have been with a couple of beautiful ladies who were close to thinking looks alone were enough. Not for me. I am not much into this 1 - 10 scale looks crap because it is totally subjective. I have heard it said "I would rather get a CBJ from a 10 than a BBBJ from an 8". I am just the opposite.

All that said, this is MY thought process and I am in no way saying it should be YOURS. It's your time, experience and money. One of the biggest traps we can fall into here it to think we all should go about this a certain way - and that we are all looking for the same things in a session. It amazes me that the really great providers can see damn near all of us, with all of our different wants and needs, and make nearly all of us happy
campers when we walk out the door. That is a real talent. Originally Posted by watchoutthegameisrigged

That's a pretty damned good, comprehensive, easily understandable, and agreeable post!!

Attitude / commitment
Looks
Great Ass Originally Posted by harrypatt

Need to make an addition to my list. ASS! How could I forget that ass!!!

You may have misread me. I have never had a CBJ intended for completion and never will. If that is all the BJ a lady offers, I'm out. Total deal breaker. I have on a few occasions had a short CBJ after a lady had me suited up when she thought I needed a bit more work to get me fully ready for intercourse. Originally Posted by watchoutthegameisrigged

My CBJs were intended for completion and that won't happen
and yes a CBJ while changing positions is fine, I cant seem
to cum with a condom on. So a bbbj is a must.

I'll just show you

+1 LittleRoc. I've always thought that Roxy was an incredibly beautiful girl!

Another aspect that no one has touched on, but I feel is incredibly important, especially with repeat friends... Rapport! Definitely heightens the sense of intimacy and makes everything so much better!

and this dancing on your dick would be worth paying for

Rapport. Very important. I have two regulars. After first couple of visits they tell me their real names etc. after almost 3 years with one and just over 1 year with the other. I know where they live I met their kids. Met ones boyfriends and even have hung out with him. Met one of their mothers and younger sisters. I have bought gifts for one of the kids that were sick. It's hard to beat that. We have become pretty good friends.

Have taken them out to eat and NO they don't charge me for lunch dates.

Sooo yeah I spend more $ on them.

Rapport! Definitely heightens the sense of intimacy and makes everything so much better!
What she said, along with a nice slow bj

DAMMIT. So many ladies I want to call regulars and so damn few ops.

Wow Mr watchout.you got 48 reviews,you must have sometime,my SO watches me too closely,to hobby half as much as you do.