Anything I can do to ensure the safety of another lady, I will do. For a provider to get upset is completely unprofessional. I will typically pm the gentleman explaining that I have sent a pm to his reference. I also advise him to maybe send that provider a text or pm to look out for my pm. Sometimes it works. Sometimes not. But, it does let the gentleman know which providers are helpful and which ones are uncooperative.
Stay safe all!
xoxo
SP