He just wouldn’t unload!

Naomi4u's Avatar
So wait... he pays for a one hour session and the session goes over two extra hours because he cannot cum and he doesn't offer to pay you extra? Going over 30 minutes? Fine. 35 minutes? Ok but an extra hour or two because he cannot cum. Sorry love but most people would say "You were ripped off". Now if it's a guy I like, like that HOT 42 year old and I'm not doing anything for the rest of the night? Please spend a night! LOL!
shorty's Avatar
I call BS on that!! I can see going over 15 minutes or even 30 minutes but not an hour. Most ladies would've stopped and said your time is up. I think there's more to the story than what's out there. I think there was probably a connection or you was just glad that someone could keep it going for the whole time frame. It may have been more about you getting satisfied this time because you sensed he could last.

Was he wrong on not letting you know he's hard to make cum, Yes! If he's like most hobbyist, he probably didn't carry any extra money into the session. I know I don't. So going over the time frame was all on you because he's not going to say anything if he's getting free pussy at the moment.
You know, when this happened in a massage, and Ive asked if there is an issue or if he is purposely holding back, then Id sit back and place his hands on it, and let him have at it. Then he is out the door. Sorry my time is money, and for this guy to have known it takes him a long time, he should have booked multi hour, and at the very least offered to compensate you for the time he over spent. What an ass!
This was our first session together, plus he also mentioned the condom issue.. He told me it was hard for him to cum, and with the condom on it made it much more of a harder ordeal to accomplish. I was straight fourth with him– I asked him if it were me, he told me no, that I was wonderful, it just has always been like that with him. He stayed harder than a rock, however, the volcano just wouldn’t erupt!

It did also cross my mind that maybe he did masturbate before I got there, thus maybe taking advantage of more of my time with him, but I really don’t think that was the case.

As far as psychological– he stated that he loves curvy women, thus that’s why he called me to make an appointment– because it crossed my mind that maybe he didn’t find me attractive, but I did confront that issue with him– and he said all was good in that neighborhood.
I did mention to him that some men that have problems with premature ejaculation would end up envying him!

He said it could be very frustrating at times! After about an hour and 20 minutes into our appointment he stated, "if I were any other guy I would already have done my business and be asleep by now".. LOL!!
I finally got him to cum though! And that made me feel better in the end! I sure would have hated to leave him without making sure that he was relevied!

As far as going the extra mile with him, I do that with all my clientele, I guess if you want to call it being ripped off– then I would probably take 1st. place on that one! Because there are many times that I spend extra time with client’s and don’t get compensated for it…. But by damn I want to make sure that they are happy before we part ways until next time!
Naomi4u's Avatar
SweetMaddy, With that business model you will end up being a lot of men's ATF at what expense though? If I were a guy and I knew you were giving two extra hours for free, I would jerk off before it's time to see you and then come right on over and take advantage of your time. It happens ALL the time but they never admit it. Trust me a man wouldn't think less of you because you left him out when time was up. Take it from a provider a highly reviewed provider that doesn't play that shit. I always give a courtesy 15 minutes or even 30 minutes.. anything after that then something's not right.

Now if you're happy working for less, more power to you love.
I call BS on that!! I can see going over 15 minutes or even 30 minutes but not an hour. Most ladies would've stopped and said your time is up. I think there's more to the story than what's out there. I think there was probably a connection or you was just glad that someone could keep it going for the whole time frame. It may have been more about you getting satisfied this time because you sensed he could last.

Was he wrong on not letting you know he's hard to make cum, Yes! If he's like most hobbyist, he probably didn't carry any extra money into the session. I know I don't. So going over the time frame was all on you because he's not going to say anything if he's getting free pussy at the moment. Originally Posted by shorty
He did tell me that I was his first escort experience, he was very uneducated about the hobby, thus maybe that’s why he really didn’t know what to expect.
 
Don’t get me wrong shorty, I enjoyed being plowed, however, I really enjoy making sure that my friend/client is well taken care of before I leave. I would say that our appointment went over about 40 minutes.. That’s including us taking a shower together afterwards and me freshing up before I left.
SweetMaddy, With that business model you will end up being a lot of men's ATF at what expense though? If I were a guy and I knew you were giving two extra hours for free, I would jerk off before it's time to see you and then come right on over and take advantage of your time. It happens ALL the time but they never admit it. Trust me a man wouldn't think less of you because you left him out when time was up. Take it from a provider a highly reviewed provider that doesn't play that shit. I always give a courtesy 15 minutes or even 30 minutes.. anything after that then something's not right.

Now if you're happy working for less, more power to you love. Originally Posted by Naomi4u
Hell no, I didn't go over two hours with him.. LMAO!! It was like 40-45 extra minutes..

Sometimes I do end up giving extra time but not no two hours extra, heck no!! LOL
Naomi4u's Avatar
Understood Maddy. I too enjoy taking showers with my clients.However, we're usually done just in time for his departure. If not, we go a little over and as I said I don't mind that. Two hours extra is a lot of time but suit yourself. I've had guys stuff the envelope with more money AND extra when we go over time - Now that's a good client.
shorty's Avatar
Sounds to me like you gave him too much head to the guy before the actual sex began. By this I mean, you made him ultrasensitive to the point to where little fella had the steam but didn't have the juice to make it happen. You can acheive O without cumming. He may not know the difference between it feeling good and O without the cum.

I've been there and done that on numerous occasions. Hell I've even walked out of a multihour session without getting off. However, I always tell the lady this beforehand and to not take it personally, if she doesn't get me off.
Maddy..this has happened to me a couple of times with guys in their 30's...and myself like you, I refuse to leave with out their being satisfied....but in all reality with approx 70% of men with this problem that are in late 20's-late 30's ..#1 to much self play..especially right before they no they are about to hit the kitty....#2 very good mind control....#3 medication...and sometimes I believe it is a lil' bit of nervousness....so don't worry bout it girl...good job!
Waldo P. Emerson-Jones's Avatar
1. It's not uncommon.

2. There's lots of reasons for it, including stress, medications, masturbation shortly before the session, overstimulation, etc.

3. I seriously doubt it's because of you. You have pics posted. He selected you presumably after seeing them. I assume you were clean and fresh and not a complete bitch. Also, there's the fact that he kept going at it long after the hour was over. If I were repulsed by an escort for some reason, I'd want to get out of there--either jack off or call it quits.

4. I've had this problem personally. For me, it's usually happened when I've come close to climaxing but pulled back once too often. After a while, I become a little desensitized and start to focus too much on trying to come which can keep it from happening. And, I never jack off before a session (that's like eating crackers before going to a steakhouse), I'm in my 30s, in good physical shape, and don't take any meds.

5. If I had to guess, I'd say it was a combination of stress/anxiety (you said it was his first time and that can definitely be stressful!), wearing a condom (always makes it more difficult for me and many others, especially if he is not used to this), and some guys just are more prone to this than others (and he said that's the case with him).

6. Your choice on how to handle it when it happens. If you're not in the mood to give him extra time or hope that he tips you, I think one of the smoothest ways to handle it is to observe that the time is almost up and ask him if he wants to "extend" his time. To me, that's a clear signal that you expect more money if he wants to keep trying.
ScubaBad's Avatar
+1 to Waldo

In the passion of the moment, I will hold back wanting to extend the pleasure (especially if I don't think I have a second cup available), and once in a while when I do this, I am not able to "finish". This by no means takes anything away from the experience. I guess I would rather have 45 minutes of fun time without a finish, than 5 with a finish and limp little Scuba.
burkalini's Avatar
I have had this happen to me a couple of times. I try as hard as I can but it just doesn't happen. It has nothing to do with the gal. It may be my diet that day or I have something on my mind. I always stop at the right time and always let the provider know she did well. It is pretty rare though as I usually msog very easily.
I've had this happen once. The guy booked me for 2 hours and he warned me a head of time that he is hard to "get off". It took about an hour and half but at least he knew and planned ahead. He was about 27 and quite fit so I'm not sure what the deal was.
Anyway, you tried your best! That sucks that he didn't compensate you for your efforts. However, he might have lost track of time.
Medication can effect the libido.