All good comments and not really repetitive, either, guys. Congratulate yourselves. Now, a little off the reservation, I would add to what Redwolf said. Get a can of the amino acid L-Argenine. You can get it at supplement stores like GNC. Mix the recommended dosage with water, juice or whatever. It's subtle and tastes like light lemon lime, but what you're doing is giving your body a building block to boost the production of NO, nitric oxide, which in turn translates to your unit, to a degree, though that isn't its primary use. More blood flow, additional 'hydraulic' support is the result. Your body doesn't make this amino acid itself, so it gets it elsewhere, the most common being some types of nuts (not those on here or between your legs). That's the same basic way ED meds like Cialis and especially Viagra operate, i.e.,
increasing the synthesis of NO in your body, among other things. It won't be a miracle, but won't hurt to try it, either. Remember, the biggest sex organ is between your ears and stress us a fun killer, so you still have to relax and this might give the boost you seek without making you sick. If none of this works for you, consider a trained sex therapist and/or a surrogate.
Oh, and don't confuse how L-Arg works in other environments where it can actually be a pollutant. It's different in animals, like I said.
The other day I was with a provider and I was going for round 3. I thought I was going to have to break out a couple of Popsicle sticks to help it stand up. She had me lay back with my feet on the floor an she done a RCG and a side saddle that was completely amazing and she had her 4th "O" as well. She said she really liked it at 60%. Just wanted to pass along that you can try that position and she will really make you like it.
Here's another trick that comes in handy at my age for round 2 or three and might be helpful to you. Once you get to that 65 or 80 % lay your hand flat on your stomach pointing to your junk with palm down. Then use your index and middle fingers to press hard on the back of your equipment, at the base where it meets your body. What you are doing is putting pressure on two of the main veins and slowing the loss of blood from your dick. In turn it gets/stays harder than it would have as the blood takes longer to leave. Similar to the effect of a cock ring. Keeping your hand in this position will leave it out of the way for your woman to do what she does, yet help you out.
Also, if you are really used to your own touch and find it difficult to get aroused by different contact, there are a couple things you can do.
One, train yourself by switching up your grip. Instead of using only palm up as most guys do, go palm down. Switch hands. Use spit as a lube occasionally instead of synthetic lube, so you are more used to natural lubrication.
Two, do what you would normally do but with her help. Some providers will be happy to tea bag you while you finish on their chest or face. All the porn stars do it to get a clean money shot for the camera, so why not us? Have her take it back in her mouth when her saliva starts getting drier on your dick, then she can go back to tea bagging while you prepare her jewelry. One of the sexiest things a SO ever did for me was let me come on her face while she tea bagged (standing) then she took my dick and used it to wipe the cum off of her face, and then sucked my cock clean. I wish I knew where she lives now!
Lastly...don't jerk off for at least a week before you see her. If you see an MSOG provider getting the first shot off quick will not matter. Have fun!
Excellent thread.. Very informative and a lot of good suggestions.. Servers as a pretty good guide for newbies like myself. Thank you