Deposits....

I’ve said this before, but the funny thing is many guys on here that preach about never sending a deposit have no problems sending one to me. Then, of course they don’t write a review about it. LMFAO. Do proper research because there are people using fake pictures(stolen from instagram models) to run deposit scams. If the lady has been around for a while, have no issues.

Unfortunately, since the hobby is not “a secret anymore. “There are people who literally set up fake appointments with the intent of never showing up. Alternatively, people make appointments with one provider, but then find someone that’s closer or cheaper and cancel last minute. Times are tough for all of us and we still have bills to pay. However, my main reason for requesting deposit is safety. I won’t give out my address Before hand. But I don’t work out of hotels I keep permanent in calls.

If I have to cancel, I return the deposit. I actually sent $50 to a favorite client of mine when ***I could not make it to our meeting because of a freak hailstorm last spring. Hoping he could at least put that towards a session while he was in town. Of course he did not send a deposit because we have a great relationship :-)

Unfortunately too many dudes take one look at a hot pic and let the little head do all the thinking.

Exactly what Brandofan said. I have regretfully said no to some ladies I would seriously love to see, but there are just things that don't make sense to me. I am a consultant and can demand a retainer when I am engaged. I prefer to be paid when I work, however, not for work to be done in the future. But if someone wants to give me a retainer to establish a legal contract, I'll take it.
As a side, no one has said anything about payment methods. I've never had anyone legitimately tell me why they won't take cash, but it's becoming quite the thing. Now, upfront is a clear scam. But "bring an Amazon gift card when we meet". I question that. How can that be a scam other than asking me to read the numbers and PIN before she will give me the room number. Got any other ideas? Originally Posted by luv2luv

Do your homework - most respectable, professional professionals of integrity have a track record of not screwing people over. You have to understand that we providers get NCNS very frequently. That can be expensive if you have passed on other business as a result or spent money on an incall ... so just talk to a lady who wants a deposit: look at her reviews and understand that some ladies are not scamming: they are trying not to BE scammed!

Just today a Dallas gent tried to give me a deposit ,so when I visit again and I declined to take his deposit this far out from my next visit and he thanked me for that , but I told him I don't have any dates for my next visit .

And he never booked when I was just in town so I Can't take him That Serious so I'm not taking a deposit just to hold on to it.

There is no such thing as a legitimate provider who will not accept cash. That does not exist.

It sounds like you need to vet these ads more before you contact them. Internet scams have been around since the internet; you know what to look for: broken English, random punctuation marks, using words like "dear," pics of a hot woman showing off everything, etc.

the question is still out there - so that guys can avoid looking there - where are you finding these providers who asked/required a deposit??


also, wrt "they won't take cash" - i can see them not wanting to have cash around their place at the end of the day, esp when many providers are asking 400, 500, 1000/hr!!

like brandofan said, they can ask whatever they want. we can reply however we want.

No matter how much established guys preach against it, there will always guys who will still pay deposits so the providers who charge deposits will always have suckers that will prepay. There are several threads on this subject and in each case, guys gripe about being taken and providers who charge deposits always defend it.

The provider rationale is mainly guys waste their time so they charge deposits. Hobbyists get their time wasted as well, why can't they charge deposits to make sure the provider is also serious? How well would that go over with the providers? Then, you have your answer why guys do not like to prepay.

In the end, you cant control what someone else will do. You can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink. A lot of us here will say no to deposits.. but in the end, its up to the individual if they are willing to take the risk given all the info.


I dont doubt that there are good endings out there with a deposit and all that but those will rarely be bragged about. The ones we will hear about are when a guy got ripped off. In the end... the lady will determine if she wants a deposit and the guys will determine if they will pay it.