"Safe Sex": More Than Just Health

I'm clipped so no worries there, makes life easier in the hobby and with SB's. That being said, there's also the back child support issue. It's murky and not really clear, but you could get whacked when the kid is 17 for 17 years of back child support. It's not supposed to happen if you had no prior knowledge and she didn't seek you out knowing where you were, but I could easily see a case for it.

I know 2 people who dodged the CS bullet.

One was born sterile - had 3 different doctors attesting to it. When his wife of 6 years turned up pregnant the divorce ensued. She swore up and down it was his, then those pesky doctor reports came in. She was given 2 options, name the REAL father so the courts can go after him or give up her right to pursue.

2nd friend was "named" as the father by some woman he had met 2 times. 1st time was for a one on one deal. She never said anything after that meeting then after they attended a swinger party to which there was testimony that she had been with 6 guys, all unprotected my friend was named as the sperm donor that made her pregnant. She took a test 2 days after that party and found out. He believes she named him because she did not know the others.

Here is where it get funny - she was married for 5 years, had a 4 year old. She had stopped having set with her then husband. A divorce ensured & during the process her EX's lawyer had a DNA test done on her first child. Turns out the 1st kid was NOT her EX's. The kid's birthday month was the same month of their wedding anniversary. So figure 3 months after they said "I Do" she "DID".

Her Ex knew about the paternity claim on my friend & contacted him to say get a DNA test because there are good odds its not his. He took a different route. He refused to take the paternity test citing that he will not pay child support to her because she has a child from another man she would use the $$$ for. Judge agreed - told her to ID the other father & gave her 90 days to proffer up the info. She did not do so, moved to Indiana which at that time was a state that did not do reciprocity on child support for Texas.

Once the A.G. of Texas got notice she was living up there she got a letter that no child support will be collected because of this state agreement - my friend got told the same thing.

For all he knows he might have a kid but because she took the test after an orgy in which she had done 6 guys (the term "Cum Dumpster" comes to mind) makes the results a bit shady.

This was in the mid 90's where child support was set to 20% of a man's gross income for 1st child, then 10% for each child he father after that but not to exceed 50% of his gross income. Now if she got knocked up by another guy then its 20% all over.

Hence the term(s) "Vagina-mony" & "Paternal Extortion"

I have done bbfs in hobby only one had even I say chance of them getting pregnant is less than the condoms getting sucked in her and spills it on the removal. Never the less these chicks move to much to keep track. But never know when you put up in scam. In many states men not married have even less rights.

We found out my deceased grandfather had a few kids on the side lol. He worked on the railroad and was plowing that on the road. I got snipped.

Years ago I was banging this married chick on the side. Well she got attached I broke it off because she wanted to leave his ass. That was before cell phones. Man she became so fucking stalker ish saying I got her pregnant. I dodged a bullet she was lying.

So recently I decided to snip. Went good but man smelling the cauterizing and feeling the dude pulling on stuff wasn’t my idea of fun. We had a great conversation about Testosterone replacement and how he was a big proponent of it lol. Since I’m on it was an interesting conversation.

STD's (especially incurable ones) and unwanted pregnancies should be enough to deter any hobbyist from even wanting BBFS. Unfortunately, it does not. I can't tell you the number of gentleman I've had to turn away because that's what they were looking for. That's another scary aspect of the hobby.

One of the reasons I carry my own condoms. I've been to sessions where the provider couldn't find one or the one they had was too small. Be prepared.

Bro called STDs pesky 😭 I fear them more than unwanted pregnancy